And Now, the Other Woman
You ready for a little controversy? OK, you ready for a lot of controversy? Then get ready for Monday’s show, because you may be yelling at the screen for this one, but it is important and really interesting!
On the show, I’m going to be interviewing the fabled “other woman.” Five of them, in fact, and all of them members of the online group “Mistresses Anonymous.” All of them openly talk to me about why they became mistresses to married men. They also talk about what they have to endure as mistresses. And I have to tell you, what they have to say is so intriguing that I think this show easily could have gone three hours in length.
In fact, when we were taping the episode, I kept glancing at members of the studio audience, noticing just how many of them had their mouths open in shock. What clearly stunned everyone in the audience was the “other women’s” complaints that they are victims as much as the wives who are being cheated on.
They believe they are victimized by how their married lovers lie to them and string them along for years at a time. They have a unique point of view on how the wife carries a lot of the blame for the situations. I’ll let you hear those arguments for yourself. The “other women” also bitterly describe feeling stuck on the sidelines, always looking in, but don’t seem to own the fact that they, in most cases, are knowingly in a relationship with a married man.
Needless to say, I’m dying to hear what you think. As you watch these other women, ask yourself these questions:
- Are they really victims, or are they just whining?
- Do they truly want marriage themselves, or is there some part of them that is actually very content with a secret, part-time, taboo relationship?
- What do you think about their comments that wives need to behave more like mistresses?
- Why, in the end, do you really think men have affairs? And what about married women who have affairs? Are they cheating for different reasons than men?
- Finally, can a marriage survive infidelity? Should it? And if one wants the marriage to survive an affair, then how exactly does one go about it?
I look forward to your comments. I’ll be reading and responding, as I love our conversations.
Here’s my video reply to reader Donna, who says, ” … I also think Dr. Phil was wrong in giving advice on how to keep your husband from cheating. How come everyone always blames the wife?”