Comments on: A Woman on the Street http://blog.drphil.com/2009/10/16/a-woman-on-the-street/ Dr. Phil- Start A Change Reaction Sun, 19 May 2013 02:33:16 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8 hourly 1 By: R. Burt http://blog.drphil.com/2009/10/16/a-woman-on-the-street/comment-page-6/#comment-137406 R. Burt Wed, 16 Jan 2013 21:05:16 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=1638#comment-137406 Dear Dr. Phil: I wanted to write to you using the Send Your Comments section of Dr.Phil.com but was excluded from doing so because of having the status of being "homeless' and therefore do not have the required information of an address to fill in order to write to you. I have found this to be a common problem. Since you are supportive of people that need their own home, can you change this requirement on your information? Thank you Dear Dr. Phil:
I wanted to write to you using the Send Your Comments section of Dr.Phil.com but was excluded from doing so because of having the status of being “homeless’ and therefore do not have the required information of an address to fill in order to write to you.
I have found this to be a common problem.
Since you are supportive of people that need their own home, can you change this requirement on your information?
Thank you

]]> By: Rasmi http://blog.drphil.com/2009/10/16/a-woman-on-the-street/comment-page-6/#comment-137157 Rasmi Mon, 14 Jan 2013 09:32:47 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=1638#comment-137157 Oh boy, I'm sorry. Sorry because I know how hard of a decsiion it can be, and you know what, I don't think you'll ever know what the right answer is. Well, basically, you know, but will you ever be totally happy with your decsiion? Maybe. Maybe in a week, or maybe in a year. I'm wanting a 3rd child but my husband is 100% NO. Like might as well give up hope. Every time I see newborn I totally crave another child! I feel complete in many ways, though, so maybe as moms and as women we'll just always crave a little bit having another baby because it's so the biggest part of our lives? But at the end of the day we should be thankful and count our blessings for what we do have, you know? Oh boy, I’m sorry. Sorry because I know how hard of a decsiion it can be, and you know what, I don’t think you’ll ever know what the right answer is. Well, basically, you know, but will you ever be totally happy with your decsiion? Maybe. Maybe in a week, or maybe in a year. I’m wanting a 3rd child but my husband is 100% NO. Like might as well give up hope. Every time I see newborn I totally crave another child! I feel complete in many ways, though, so maybe as moms and as women we’ll just always crave a little bit having another baby because it’s so the biggest part of our lives? But at the end of the day we should be thankful and count our blessings for what we do have, you know?

]]> By: lynn http://blog.drphil.com/2009/10/16/a-woman-on-the-street/comment-page-6/#comment-11901 lynn Wed, 17 Mar 2010 01:27:41 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=1638#comment-11901 I would have stopped or turned around right away. You never know the circumstances of people unless you ask and are willing to get involved. A similar situation occurred in the area I live in and a few friends and I followed these poor homeless people until we knew they were taken care of. Mostly , they just need a helping hand and we all have two of them and sometimes don't put them to good use. Don't deny yourself a blessing by being selfish. I would have stopped or turned around right away. You never know the circumstances of people unless you ask and are willing to get involved. A similar situation occurred in the area I live in and a few friends and I followed these poor homeless people until we knew they were taken care of. Mostly , they just need a helping hand and we all have two of them and sometimes don’t put them to good use. Don’t deny yourself a blessing by being selfish.

]]> By: kelly young http://blog.drphil.com/2009/10/16/a-woman-on-the-street/comment-page-6/#comment-7665 kelly young Thu, 17 Dec 2009 22:43:05 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=1638#comment-7665 wondering what your thoughts are on my last year of "life", feb.18 2009 my son was killed in accident, within 48 hours later, my husband of 15 years had a heartattack and past away. i am 35 yrs old, have 19 yr old son,17yr old daughter,12 yr old son and8 yr old daughter. i sued plumbing co. that hit ty, got settlement which had to be split between my 2 small children and ty's biological mother, in which didnt even know him, and her 2 other children in which doesnt know her either. the judge allowed me to buy home, and put the rest in trust fund for kids later in life. so now i sit here raising 3 kids, on widows pay from social security, applied for foodsatmps, got turned down, due to the trust fund, in which i cannot have any of the money in it.cannot seem to pay someone to hire me, wanting to open consignment store in local area that does not have one, cannot afford it. have any suggestions? i am good with making a penny stretch but it cant stretch any further, its about to break and so am i! i need help getting small businesss started, have any suggestions?kelly young wondering what your thoughts are on my last year of “life”, feb.18 2009 my son was killed in accident, within 48 hours later, my husband of 15 years had a heartattack and past away. i am 35 yrs old, have 19 yr old son,17yr old daughter,12 yr old son and8 yr old daughter. i sued plumbing co. that hit ty, got settlement which had to be split between my 2 small children and ty’s biological mother, in which didnt even know him, and her 2 other children in which doesnt know her either. the judge allowed me to buy home, and put the rest in trust fund for kids later in life. so now i sit here raising 3 kids, on widows pay from social security, applied for foodsatmps, got turned down, due to the trust fund, in which i cannot have any of the money in it.cannot seem to pay someone to hire me, wanting to open consignment store in local area that does not have one, cannot afford it. have any suggestions? i am good with making a penny stretch but it cant stretch any further, its about to break and so am i! i need help getting small businesss started, have any suggestions?kelly young

]]> By: Buffy http://blog.drphil.com/2009/10/16/a-woman-on-the-street/comment-page-6/#comment-7645 Buffy Wed, 16 Dec 2009 05:04:49 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=1638#comment-7645 It is thought that many of the homeless population suffer from "sleep-disordered breathing", a condition treatable with "continuous positive airway pressure". This condition causes depression, anxiety and impaired neurocognitive performance. It can even cause psychosis in some. Please help spread awareness of the condition. Many psychotropic meds, sedatives, etc actually increase the risk for respiratory complications. It is thought that many of the homeless population suffer from “sleep-disordered breathing”, a condition treatable with “continuous positive airway pressure”. This condition causes depression, anxiety and impaired neurocognitive performance. It can even cause psychosis in some. Please help spread awareness of the condition. Many psychotropic meds, sedatives, etc actually increase the risk for respiratory complications.

]]> By: Nancy http://blog.drphil.com/2009/10/16/a-woman-on-the-street/comment-page-6/#comment-7640 Nancy Tue, 15 Dec 2009 18:54:30 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=1638#comment-7640 Dr Phil, I would have stopped and offered assistance, and if she seemed incoherent I would have called 911 or the non-emergency number and requested a law enforcement official to come and handle it. They are trained and know where to take her or who to contact, be it the hospital, a shelter, or elsewhere. You did a good thing by stopping traffic in the first place. Dr Phil, I would have stopped and offered assistance, and if she seemed incoherent I would have called 911 or the non-emergency number and requested a law enforcement official to come and handle it. They are trained and know where to take her or who to contact, be it the hospital, a shelter, or elsewhere. You did a good thing by stopping traffic in the first place.

]]> By: Wisconsin Family http://blog.drphil.com/2009/10/16/a-woman-on-the-street/comment-page-5/#comment-7618 Wisconsin Family Mon, 14 Dec 2009 06:38:33 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=1638#comment-7618 Dear Dr Phil. I understand why you did not stop and were not prepared. We all go about our lives in the usual fashion day to day glimpsing at others lives briefly as we go but fairly absorbed in our own stuff... Even though we know things are outt here eists homelessness , drugs etc.. unless we are touched by it directly it often is not real to us. I can say this because I am 44 yrs old, college educated and came from a family of business owners and was raised in a family where money was not a problem. When I was 34 yrs old with a 5 yr old child and husband.. a realestate purchase went bad and we ended up homeless. We lost our savings, our belongings and our home all within 10 days. I never saw it coming , never ever thought it would ever be me... That was 10 years ago and we are still struggling to make it.. the actions the very unethical actions of one person back then basically defined our duaghter life to this point and ours and really ruined much of our lives. Ending up homeless began a long series of events that have lead us to where we are today. I have found soe good in that but more bad than good. Im telling you this.. and this is only a small part of the story but I am telling you this because Even though we were homeless .. I wouold not have stopped for that person. I have worked as a Nurse and also with Mental Health and Was homeless and I would have been uprepared too and I would not have stopped. I would have had my safety and health on my mind and that of anyone with me. Having said that it would have bothered me greatly to have not stopped and I would have probably called some agencies who maybe could have helped. I dont know. We live in a smaller area in Wisconsin an we even see homeless here.. BUT there are plenty of shelters and warming places here and so when I see them out begging here I do not feel bad passing them because I know they are out there of choice because there are places for them here.. I dont know if that is the case where you live. So I wanted to share my thoughts on this with you. We have quite an interesting story feel free to contact us if you ever desire to know more! :0) Dear Dr Phil. I understand why you did not stop and were not prepared.

We all go about our lives in the usual fashion day to day glimpsing at others lives briefly as we go but fairly absorbed in our own stuff… Even though we know things are outt here eists homelessness , drugs etc.. unless we are touched by it directly it often is not real to us.

I can say this because I am 44 yrs old, college educated and came from a family of business owners and was raised in a family where money was not a problem.

When I was 34 yrs old with a 5 yr old child and husband.. a realestate purchase went bad and we ended up homeless. We lost our savings, our belongings and our home all within 10 days. I never saw it coming , never ever thought it would ever be me…
That was 10 years ago and we are still struggling to make it.. the actions the very unethical actions of one person back then basically defined our duaghter life to this point and ours and really ruined much of our lives.

Ending up homeless began a long series of events that have lead us to where we are today. I have found soe good in that but more bad than good.

Im telling you this.. and this is only a small part of the story but I am telling you this because Even though we were homeless .. I wouold not have stopped for that person.

I have worked as a Nurse and also with Mental Health and Was homeless and I would have been uprepared too and I would not have stopped. I would have had my safety and health on my mind and that of anyone with me.

Having said that it would have bothered me greatly to have not stopped and I would have probably called some agencies who maybe could have helped. I dont know. We live in a smaller area in Wisconsin an we even see homeless here.. BUT
there are plenty of shelters and warming places here and so when I see them out begging here I do not feel bad passing them because I know they are out there of choice because there are places for them here.. I dont know if that is the case where you live.

So I wanted to share my thoughts on this with you. We have quite an interesting story feel free to contact us if you ever desire to know more! :0)

]]> By: Jamie Fitzsimmons http://blog.drphil.com/2009/10/16/a-woman-on-the-street/comment-page-5/#comment-7601 Jamie Fitzsimmons Sat, 12 Dec 2009 14:12:48 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=1638#comment-7601 I believe you did the right thing. You made sure she crossed the road safely. You came back. Maybe if they made Homelessness against the law these people would not be on the streets and help would be given to them. Sometimes you cannot ask for help if you are mentally ill and on the streets. They make petty laws, so why not something to help the Homeless Community not be considered a Community anymore. Homelessness should not be an Option, there should always be a way out or in this case a way IN. Lots of Love, Jamie I believe you did the right thing. You made sure she crossed the road safely. You came back. Maybe if they made Homelessness against the law these people would not be on the streets and help would be given to them. Sometimes you cannot ask for help if you are mentally ill and on the streets. They make petty laws, so why not something to help the Homeless Community not be considered a Community anymore. Homelessness should not be an Option, there should always be a way out or in this case a way IN. Lots of Love, Jamie

]]> By: marie stassin http://blog.drphil.com/2009/10/16/a-woman-on-the-street/comment-page-5/#comment-7529 marie stassin Wed, 09 Dec 2009 22:41:45 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=1638#comment-7529 Dr. Phil. You are human. hindsight is 20/20. I carry a lease in my car to rescue strays or animals in harms way and i use it, don;t be too hard on yourself. You did do plenty when youblocked traffic. (dr. Marie) just kidding, marie sb Dr. Phil. You are human. hindsight is 20/20. I carry a lease in my car to rescue strays or animals in harms way and i use it, don;t be too hard on yourself. You did do plenty when youblocked traffic. (dr. Marie) just kidding, marie sb

]]> By: juneflower http://blog.drphil.com/2009/10/16/a-woman-on-the-street/comment-page-5/#comment-7524 juneflower Wed, 09 Dec 2009 21:05:04 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=1638#comment-7524 I lived in Manhattan for 6 years. I always loved living there until I saw something that made me feel differently. I had graduated from college and snagged a great job at a multinational law firm. One of the perks of my job was every month they would order pizza for everyone for dinner. On one of these days I decided to take some pizza home since I wasn't hungry at the time it was delivered. I was waiting in the subway when I saw what was obviously a homeless man shuffling threw the station. He reached a trash can and began to dig threw it. I watched in horror as he ate something that he found. He then moved along to another trash can nearby and began looking threw that one. I looked around me and saw that other people had noticed too but they all turned away. Some were disgusted, some were clearly feeling sorry for him, some looked guilty and others were just walking away so they would not have to pretend to see. I was more disturbed by the fact that people were ignoring another human beings misery because it made them uncomfortable, then by the fact that someone was hungry enough to eat trash. Although, I was upset by that. Somehow people ignoring it was worse. It was like they thought he deserved to eat trash. Without thinking about it, I approached him and offered him my pizza that I has been planning to take home. He took it and shuffled off and I never felt the same about living there. A year later I left and moved to another state and into the country. I couldn't imagine what kind of people would pretend not to see something and do nothing when they had so much. I hope my pizza helped, I wished I could have done more. I lived in Manhattan for 6 years. I always loved living there until I saw something that made me feel differently. I had graduated from college and snagged a great job at a multinational law firm. One of the perks of my job was every month they would order pizza for everyone for dinner. On one of these days I decided to take some pizza home since I wasn’t hungry at the time it was delivered. I was waiting in the subway when I saw what was obviously a homeless man shuffling threw the station. He reached a trash can and began to dig threw it. I watched in horror as he ate something that he found. He then moved along to another trash can nearby and began looking threw that one. I looked around me and saw that other people had noticed too but they all turned away. Some were disgusted, some were clearly feeling sorry for him, some looked guilty and others were just walking away so they would not have to pretend to see. I was more disturbed by the fact that people were ignoring another human beings misery because it made them uncomfortable, then by the fact that someone was hungry enough to eat trash. Although, I was upset by that. Somehow people ignoring it was worse. It was like they thought he deserved to eat trash. Without thinking about it, I approached him and offered him my pizza that I has been planning to take home. He took it and shuffled off and I never felt the same about living there. A year later I left and moved to another state and into the country. I couldn’t imagine what kind of people would pretend not to see something and do nothing when they had so much. I hope my pizza helped, I wished I could have done more.

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