Comments on: Thanksgiving at the McGraws http://blog.drphil.com/2009/11/25/thanksgiving-at-the-mcgraws/ Dr. Phil- Start A Change Reaction Tue, 17 Jan 2012 02:51:49 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8 hourly 1 By: Rosalind Carroll http://blog.drphil.com/2009/11/25/thanksgiving-at-the-mcgraws/comment-page-2/#comment-14951 Rosalind Carroll Mon, 24 May 2010 19:55:59 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=1871#comment-14951 I dont think you will see a change in this family until you get them off the air The youngest one never seem to have a problem but becaz her sister now has become a seleb becaz of this show even tho it is bad for them this makes things worse(airing them on the show all the time). I think its time to leave them alone now and let them deal with what they are doing. it goes to show things have gotten worse not better and that says it all to me. The little babies are the ones I feel for In any other situation these children would be taken from an unfit mother and put with a family who can look after them. You can lead a horse to water but you cant force him to drink and clearly this one does not want to drink. This mess started with the Mother and the Father they were poor gaurdians of these children. When a parent doesnt have ears and just a mouth you know what you are dealing with. I see it everyday. I believe in that home the girls were not allow to be heard but Erin seems to be deaf and only thinks what her thoughts are are the right ones if anyone else differs then they are wrong growing up in this gives us just what you see on TV. She knows she hasnt come clean completely Erin just wants us to see her after know that the damage has been done with girls she screams WHATS GOING ON HERE. Both Mother and Father did not hear their children. The way to teach your children to lie is punishing them when they make a mistake. Children will tell a lie rather than get punished. Listen to what they have to tell you and then make a respoinsible decision. I dont think you will see a change in this family until you get them off the air The youngest one never seem to have a problem but becaz her sister now has become a seleb becaz of this show even tho it is bad for them this makes things worse(airing them on the show all the time). I think its time to leave them alone now and let them deal with what they are doing. it goes to show things have gotten worse not better and that says it all to me. The little babies are the ones I feel for In any other situation these children would be taken from an unfit mother and put with a family who can look after them. You can lead a horse to water but you cant force him to drink and clearly this one does not want to drink. This mess started with the Mother and the Father they were poor gaurdians of these children. When a parent doesnt have ears and just a mouth you know what you are dealing with. I see it everyday. I believe in that home the girls were not allow to be heard but Erin seems to be deaf and only thinks what her thoughts are are the right ones if anyone else differs then they are wrong growing up in this gives us just what you see on TV. She knows she hasnt come clean completely Erin just wants us to see her after know that the damage has been done with girls she screams WHATS GOING ON HERE. Both Mother and Father did not hear their children. The way to teach your children to lie is punishing them when they make a mistake. Children will tell a lie rather than get punished. Listen to what they have to tell you and then make a respoinsible decision.

]]> By: marie stassin http://blog.drphil.com/2009/11/25/thanksgiving-at-the-mcgraws/comment-page-2/#comment-7531 marie stassin Wed, 09 Dec 2009 23:22:39 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=1871#comment-7531 Dr. Phil, I also have 2 sons, brad and russ. we will celebrate thanksgiving together but alone this year. divorced from an abusive man for almost 10 years now we are better off from a broken home than in one, as you always say.I even named our new home serenity. We are very thankful for peace and harmoney, even if we are alone cause the divorce left us friendless as people did not believe he was abusive.they only saw the public face not the private face behind closed doors. but I also keep tradition alive cooking all day, a beautifull tree, etc. dispite being disabled and broke we are very rich to have each other. I wake up every morning excited by my desire to be an artist one day with my paintings. i strive to get better to have a more comfortable life for me and them. you have said if you don't wake up everyday excited about what you do there is something missing in your life. you are so right, I used to paint when the boys were napping and my ex-husband would tare my art up. he was holding me back. there is no better feeling than freedom from abuse. we will survive. my youngest has tourette's bless his heart. thank you for letting me share this with you. i hope you really got to read it. thank you for sharing your family with us. ilove your show. dr.Marie just kidding marie sb Dr. Phil, I also have 2 sons, brad and russ. we will celebrate thanksgiving together but alone this year. divorced from an abusive man for almost 10 years now we are better off from a broken home than in one, as you always say.I even named our new home serenity. We are very thankful for peace and harmoney, even if we are alone cause the divorce left us friendless as people did not believe he was abusive.they only saw the public face not the private face behind closed doors. but I also keep tradition alive cooking all day, a beautifull tree, etc. dispite being disabled and broke we are very rich to have each other. I wake up every morning excited by my desire to be an artist one day with my paintings. i strive to get better to have a more comfortable life for me and them. you have said if you don’t wake up everyday excited about what you do there is something missing in your life. you are so right, I used to paint when the boys were napping and my ex-husband would tare my art up. he was holding me back. there is no better feeling than freedom from abuse. we will survive. my youngest has tourette’s bless his heart. thank you for letting me share this with you. i hope you really got to read it. thank you for sharing your family with us. ilove your show. dr.Marie just kidding marie sb

]]> By: Rev. Mom http://blog.drphil.com/2009/11/25/thanksgiving-at-the-mcgraws/comment-page-2/#comment-7136 Rev. Mom Thu, 03 Dec 2009 21:36:24 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=1871#comment-7136 Ok-- I'm plugging into this a little late-- because I finally broke down and signed up for Twitter. Dr. Phil -- I LOVED your thoughts on Thanksgiving. This was a different day for our family-- my husband and I are both pastors-- I am an interim pastor and travel to different churches where there is conflict and contract with those churches for 12 months to help straighten them out-- do visioning, do goal setting etc. So, my husband and I were separated this year because we are living in different states. I had various invites from parishioners and of course accepted them. Roy volunteered and served Thanksgiving Dinner at a Mission this year. We too are so thankful to see our son's life accomplishments which includes his recent marriage to his beautiful wife Jessica. God bless you Dr. Phil in the work you do and how you help turn peoples lives around. Ok– I’m plugging into this a little late– because I finally broke down and signed up for Twitter. Dr. Phil — I LOVED your thoughts on Thanksgiving. This was a different day for our family– my husband and I are both pastors– I am an interim pastor and travel to different churches where there is conflict and contract with those churches for 12 months to help straighten them out– do visioning, do goal setting etc. So, my husband and I were separated this year because we are living in different states. I had various invites from parishioners and of course accepted them. Roy volunteered and served Thanksgiving Dinner at a Mission this year.
We too are so thankful to see our son’s life accomplishments which includes his recent marriage to his beautiful wife Jessica.
God bless you Dr. Phil in the work you do and how you help turn peoples lives around.

]]> By: Brenda Rutledge http://blog.drphil.com/2009/11/25/thanksgiving-at-the-mcgraws/comment-page-2/#comment-7131 Brenda Rutledge Thu, 03 Dec 2009 19:24:58 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=1871#comment-7131 Well Dr. Phil, this was the first year both my girls actually 'had' to come home for Christmas - as the oldest one (Samantha) is permanently located in Plano, TX now since graduating from the University of Texas @ Dallas; and the younger one (Christina) is a sophmore at the Univerity of North Texas in Denton. I was so excited getting the house and meal prepared for everyone that was coming over, but I was over the moon with excitment to see the girls, whom I had not seen in over 3 months!! My oldest daughter also brought her new puppy, Levi. He is 3 months old and so much fun. I forgot how much work a puppy was, but it was so joyful as well. One tradition the girls and I had when they lived at home was to snuggle down on Friday night with hot chocolate and leftovers and watch 'Little Women' with Wynona Ryder. I've never felt so blessed as I did this past Friday, watching TV with them and thanking God for the wonderful family He blessed me with. Thanks for letting me share, Brenda Rutledge, San Antonio, Texas Well Dr. Phil, this was the first year both my girls actually ‘had’ to come home for Christmas – as the oldest one (Samantha) is permanently located in Plano, TX now since graduating from the University of Texas @ Dallas; and the younger one (Christina) is a sophmore at the Univerity of North Texas in Denton. I was so excited getting the house and meal prepared for everyone that was coming over, but I was over the moon with excitment to see the girls, whom I had not seen in over 3 months!! My oldest daughter also brought her new puppy, Levi. He is 3 months old and so much fun. I forgot how much work a puppy was, but it was so joyful as well. One tradition the girls and I had when they lived at home was to snuggle down on Friday night with hot chocolate and leftovers and watch ‘Little Women’ with Wynona Ryder. I’ve never felt so blessed as I did this past Friday, watching TV with them and thanking God for the wonderful family He blessed me with.

Thanks for letting me share,
Brenda Rutledge, San Antonio, Texas

]]> By: LindaRH http://blog.drphil.com/2009/11/25/thanksgiving-at-the-mcgraws/comment-page-2/#comment-7113 LindaRH Thu, 03 Dec 2009 12:30:44 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=1871#comment-7113 Just checking in here after all my guests left. In addition to my kids and grandkids, we had out of state family come for a couple of days. I had to laugh at your saying that you have all the TV's in the house tuned to football. This reminded me of my oldest and dearest friend's father, who I'm thankful to have known. He, too, would have every TV in the house tuned to a game. He would wander from room to room yelling at one team or another. As teenagers, we would roll our eyes and make jokes about it. I'm glad your family was there to celebrate your traditions another year. These seemingly little things are the glue that keeps us together. God bless you and yours Dr Phil. Just checking in here after all my guests left. In addition to my kids and grandkids, we had out of state family come for a couple of days.
I had to laugh at your saying that you have all the TV’s in the house tuned to football. This reminded me of my oldest and dearest friend’s father, who I’m thankful to have known. He, too, would have every TV in the house tuned to a game. He would wander from room to room yelling at one team or another.
As teenagers, we would roll our eyes and make jokes about it.
I’m glad your family was there to celebrate your traditions another year. These seemingly little things are the glue that keeps us together.
God bless you and yours Dr Phil.

]]> By: Peggy Lucky-Grammer http://blog.drphil.com/2009/11/25/thanksgiving-at-the-mcgraws/comment-page-2/#comment-7022 Peggy Lucky-Grammer Tue, 01 Dec 2009 09:08:53 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=1871#comment-7022 Dr. Phil, I am the Mother of three and grandmother to 6 plus 1 great-nephew that is like my grandchild. First comment is for you. I love gramps or Poppie for a grandfather. Second, about your family in need; Alex needs to except the fact that she has had two pregnancy's with a young boys that did not know, any more than she did about being a parent. The fact that her son's father is still in school and working to make something of his life shows his parent has, maybe, instilled in him to go forward and not let this bad judgement on his part and Alex not hold him back. It sound like Alex had the same opportunity. She need serious counseling and therapy to help with her not blaming others for the mistakes she has made and not looking at Mother, sister, husband or others to vent her anger. If she really wants to keep her children and get away from family the best way would be get the education or trading for a good job. By the way, what type of work is she doing and for how long? She needs to realize no man will put up with her jumping from one man's bed to another. What will she tell her children when they start pointing her mistakes and what she has said and done. Believe me, she will have to face it one day unless she gets help now. What has happen to Erin and Marty? They don't seem to be on the same page with this issue or the one with Katherine. It seems as if Erin is having to carry the ball for both girls. I do feel, Erin is trying to not make the same ones that she feels her Mother made; but, Erin has some issues that she needs to see a therapist to help her learn how to be a Mother. I know because I have spend off and on twenty years in group and single counseling and therapy. Sincerely Peggy Dr. Phil,
I am the Mother of three and grandmother to 6 plus 1 great-nephew that is like my grandchild.
First comment is for you. I love gramps or Poppie for a grandfather.

Second, about your family in need; Alex needs to except the fact that she has had two pregnancy’s with a young boys that did not know, any more than she did about being a parent. The fact that her son’s father is still in school and working to make something of his life shows his parent has, maybe, instilled in him to go forward and not let this bad judgement on his part and Alex not hold him back.
It sound like Alex had the same opportunity. She need serious counseling and therapy to help with her not blaming others for the mistakes she has made and not looking at Mother, sister, husband or others to vent her anger. If she really wants to keep her children and get away from family the best way would be get the education or trading for a good job. By the way, what type of work is she doing and for how long? She needs to realize no man will put up with her jumping from one man’s bed to another.

What will she tell her children when they start pointing her mistakes and what she has said and done. Believe me, she will have to face it one day unless she gets help now.

What has happen to Erin and Marty? They don’t seem to be on the same page with this issue or the one with Katherine. It seems as if Erin is having to carry the ball for both girls. I do feel, Erin is trying to not make the same ones that she feels her Mother made; but, Erin has some issues that she needs to see a therapist to help her learn how to be a Mother.

I know because I have spend off and on twenty years in group and single counseling and therapy.

Sincerely

Peggy

]]> By: trubywray http://blog.drphil.com/2009/11/25/thanksgiving-at-the-mcgraws/comment-page-2/#comment-7012 trubywray Tue, 01 Dec 2009 05:11:00 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=1871#comment-7012 I am thankful for your example of true love in your marriage and I love the respect you have for each other and are not afraid to show the public. We need more true love marriages in our world today especially in the television world for all to see. I am thankful for your example of true love in your marriage and I love the respect you have for each other and are not afraid to show the public. We need more true love marriages in our world today especially in the television world for all to see.

]]> By: jessica madonia http://blog.drphil.com/2009/11/25/thanksgiving-at-the-mcgraws/comment-page-2/#comment-6999 jessica madonia Tue, 01 Dec 2009 03:34:31 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=1871#comment-6999 Dear Dr. Phil, I enjoyed reading about how you spent your Thanksgiving with your family. This year has been extremely hard for my family. Our youngest son, who just turned 3, has been hospitalized 6 times throughout the year. He has spent quite a bit of time at Phoenix Children's Hospital as the doctors were trying to figure out why he wasn't thriving. Today he has a feeding tube and is doing great. Through an international prayer chain, his name has been lifted up in prayer over 1.5 million times! That is why he is doing so well today. We have a lot to be thankful for this holiday season. It's amazing he survived after everything he has gone through. This Thanksgiving was extra special because he was actually able to eat some dinner with us! Thank you for sharing your holiday traditions with us. God Bless! Dear Dr. Phil,
I enjoyed reading about how you spent your Thanksgiving with your family. This year has been extremely hard for my family. Our youngest son, who just turned 3, has been hospitalized 6 times throughout the year. He has spent quite a bit of time at Phoenix Children’s Hospital as the doctors were trying to figure out why he wasn’t thriving. Today he has a feeding tube and is doing great. Through an international prayer chain, his name has been lifted up in prayer over 1.5 million times! That is why he is doing so well today. We have a lot to be thankful for this holiday season. It’s amazing he survived after everything he has gone through. This Thanksgiving was extra special because he was actually able to eat some dinner with us!

Thank you for sharing your holiday traditions with us. God Bless!

]]> By: Giulia http://blog.drphil.com/2009/11/25/thanksgiving-at-the-mcgraws/comment-page-2/#comment-6997 Giulia Tue, 01 Dec 2009 00:31:17 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=1871#comment-6997 Hi Dr Phil,this was my 2nd thanksgiving in the States and it was my 1st with our newest addition to the family,Vittoria,who is 8 months. I'm very thankfull to the family I have,this holiday will be even more important this year for us,because my husband is leaving for Korea for 5 months since he is in the air force. This is the 1st time to be so long without him so it is going to be wired and hard for the kids,but we will get throu it. Have nice holidays with your family! Hi Dr Phil,this was my 2nd thanksgiving in the States and it was my 1st with our newest addition to the family,Vittoria,who is 8 months.
I’m very thankfull to the family I have,this holiday will be even more important this year for us,because my husband is leaving for Korea for 5 months since he is in the air force.
This is the 1st time to be so long without him so it is going to be wired and hard for the kids,but we will get throu it.
Have nice holidays with your family!

]]> By: Holly Chartier http://blog.drphil.com/2009/11/25/thanksgiving-at-the-mcgraws/comment-page-2/#comment-6991 Holly Chartier Mon, 30 Nov 2009 21:13:19 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=1871#comment-6991 Dear Dr. Phil, thank you for your generous spirit, which I guess you got from your parents. My Thanksgiving was wonderful as it always is with my family around. It is also a bittersweet time for me, as my Mom died during Thanksgiving week in 1985. I miss her, especially now that I have grown kids of my own, but I am able to give thanks for the gift that she was to me and my brother. Although my kids didn't get to know her very well, I make sure that they know all about her. I just hope my kids feel the same way about me when I'm gone! Have a wonderful holiday season, and Merry Christmas! Dear Dr. Phil, thank you for your generous spirit, which I guess you got from your parents. My Thanksgiving was wonderful as it always is with my family around. It is also a bittersweet time for me, as my Mom died during Thanksgiving week in 1985. I miss her, especially now that I have grown kids of my own, but I am able to give thanks for the gift that she was to me and my brother. Although my kids didn’t get to know her very well, I make sure that they know all about her. I just hope my kids feel the same way about me when I’m gone!
Have a wonderful holiday season, and Merry Christmas!

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