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December 4th, 2009 by Dr. Phil

In Praise of the Chrome Dome

Dr. Phil makeup2I was thinking yesterday: I may actually be getting balder, if that’s possible. During the 10 seconds or so that I looked at myself in the mirror (I really don’t have the patience to look at this mug any longer than that), I thought to myself, “There are fewer hairs up there. ”

I don’t know, maybe my ears are just getting bigger, but it seems like I’m missing a few! Understand, when you have as few hairs as I do, you have a personal relationship with each one. I think Bob and Jeff have gone missing. 

I have no idea why I’m telling you all of this. Just thinking with my keyboard, I guess!

Fortunately, I’ve never really been a hair worshipper, which is a good thing since I grew up in the 60s when long hair was the cool thing. It seems like I’ve been bald since I was 12.   

When it started to fall, I calmly bowed to the inevitable forces of nature and began telling my own jokes about saving money on shampoo. I always told Robin that I was bald because grass won’t grow on a busy street. Not to be outdone, she replied, “Yeah right, and it won’t come up through concrete either!” Oh well, she got me there. Maybe I’m just taller than my hair! 

I don’t mind when people in my immediate vicinity complain that they are suffering from the equivalent of “snow blindness” due to the intense glare my bald head radiates. And I’ve never once thought about turning to baldness camouflage. Some toupees look like a cat on top of the guy’s head, and I would just feel creepy walking around like that. I mean, you eventually have to take it off, and that would be a little hard to explain. I might as well tape a sign to my forehead that reads: Bait and switch! Object is shinier than it appears!

And some of the permanent solutions just seem like they have got to hurt! I am convinced that hair plugs, which probably involves yanking divots out of your armpits and putting them on top of your head, would be the surgical equivalent of water-boarding. Plus, I’m so used to being bald, I think if I suddenly started growing hair, I would probably look like one of those Chia pets.

People have said to me, “Come on, Dr. Phil, You’re just in denial. Don’t you wish you could, just once, run your hands through your hair?” The answer is, I never think about it. If I had always had hair, I might miss it, but I wouldn’t really change it now if I could. A wise man once said, find a way to embrace what most people might consider to be one of your weaknesses, and you are ahead of the game. Well, I embraced baldness. I decided a long time ago that there is a certain nobility in a great expanse of scalp, and that’s all there is to it.

And now, my baldness has become a trademark. I remember when I wrote my first book and Oprah was talking about it on her show. She said, “It’s easy to find it at the bookstore. It’s got Phil’s big old bald head on the cover.” I grinned and thought, “Well, there you go!”

What physical or emotional “flaw” have you learned to embrace? I’d love to hear from you.

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79 Responses to “In Praise of the Chrome Dome”

  1. Nadia says:

    I’m doing my best to tolerate how I am ….not sure acceptance or embracing my flaws is anywhere in my future…

  2. Erin says:

    Dr. Phil, I’m a girl and let me just say that if I ever do go bald, I hope I have at least half of as good an attitude about it as you do. This definitely made my day today :)

  3. John says:

    They say you lose a hundred hairs a day….I figure you’ll be completely bald by next Saturday.

    The good news is that you had it when you needed it!! LoL

  4. Maddilion says:

    My much beloved is bald to, he started losing it at 23 years old, his brother and Dad are too, so did his Grandfather lose his hair early. Dan now shaves his head completely, as the remaining hair is dark brown, so he looks more bald with it on and cropped close. However, his brother is a lighter brown, so just goes for a buzz cut.

    I think that men that do comb-overs, thankfully more rare now than they were, look ridiculous. On a windy day, there is nothing so ridiculous than a man in a suit with tresses like a Rhinemaiden blowing in the wind. Embrace what you’ve been given, worrying about your hair loss when people are waking up facing cancer?? Put your life into perspective folks!!

  5. Hi Dr. Phil!
    Such an interesting topic…

    I grew up being bullied, everyday was told that I was ugly, stupid and so on. My curly hair was often a source of mockery. My self-confidence was getting lower and lower,even as a grown women in my 30s.

    Few years ago, my passion for photography brought me to buy a good digital camera and I strated shooting more and more… To learn the settings of my camera and to practice portraits, I started doing self-portraits and joined a group on flickr (a photo sharing site) called 365days. That group consisted or taking on self-portrait a day for a year.

    It helped me beyond what I had imagined. Not only did I learn how to use my camera and improve my photography skills, it helped me to see myself in a different perspective… Since people can comment on my pictures, it was funny to realise I was getting compliments for things I never thought I would have. The flaws that for me were awful became bearable. I can now see myself as other people are seeing me instead of having an old experience clouding my judgement and feeling bad about how I look.

    I still take self-portraits now and, although I am not a professional photographer, I really like taking portraits of my friends. It makes them feel better about themselves and I am so proud to be able to do that for them. I’d love to push foward a project I have in mind to help womens’ self-esteem… But that’s another topic.

    So today, my big and long curly hair has become a trademark too and I always joke about it saying “they” have a mind of their own. My photography helped me accept my little flaws and made me realise that I am an ok looking girl, not an ugly and stupid girl.

  6. Amy Olmstead says:

    Dr. Phil, I’ve accepted that I am high strung and have a lot of anxiety. Now I just have to do something about it.

  7. Joyce says:

    I rather like the baldness… My hubby keeps his head shaved, of course he dont have very much on top to shave, so he just shaves it all…

    Guess I really havent learned to embrace any flaw, just learned to accept them. I am who I am…. My hair is paper thin, and really you can see my scalp on top, it is that bad… I go to get my hair cut once in a blue moon, and they always comment on how thin my hair is, and how little of it I have on top.

    Beleive me I have a lot of flaws. Dont like them but cant change them either…

  8. Chella says:

    Hi Dr. Phil,

    Bald is beautiful!! My dad shaved what little he had off years ago, he went bald really young. He actually looks younger without hair because the grey stubble is gone.

    I have curly hair that I used to contantly try and straighten (don’t ask me how I was completely in the dark about the existence of hair straighteners as a teen), but now I love it. Wouldn’t let a GHD near me if you paid me.

    Now I’m learning how to accept my body, and myself in general, but I have a fantastic therapist who is helping me out with that!

    Hope you come back out to Australia again soon, would love to go to your show.

    Kind Regards, Chella :o )

  9. You’ve got tweets too Dr. Phil:

    TWEET QUOTE FROM ME TO YOU:
    “Hello from someone “3rd from the left in the 14th row” of life hoping for a medical, dental, visual (the works) Ultimate MakeoverPLS”

    I’m embracing “being 3rd from the left in the 14th row” like you mentioned today on Dr. Phil Show since 3’s the charm and I was born on 14th. LOVE your sense of humor that I think rivals any comedian. We need more of these light hearted Dr. Phil moments. Loved your chia comparison to hair plugs (that describes my chin too… perk of menopause I suppose). I noticed one person has you going completely bald “by next Saturday”… I think fellow blog commenter, John, was kidding though.

    K what follows is w/o checking spelling first so bear with me.

    I’ve been called Bugs Bunny teeth
    Breschnev Brows (that Russian fella)
    Terry Thomas teeth
    Confucius chin
    and worse…

    Seriously, though, I was going to say that balding men usually have higher levels of testosterone. So, to me, that must mean balding is a mucho macho statement by nature. While googling to verify true I noticed a Harvard article about Australian doctor’s research that not only true… Due to higher testosterone levels (or stressing about being bald)… (Researchers aren’t sure if the self consciousness of some balding men plays a part or just the higher levels of testosterone.) Men with your type of balding have over 30% higher incidence of heart disease and prostate cancer. I’m not too concerned about you as you likely get yearly exams. However, I may go do another Produce the Doctors show idea for their take on that. IF true especially important for every balding man to get a physical stat if haven’t within past year.

    My dad was about the same amount of baldness as you and that was dad and loved him just as he was. Plus, I LOVE my Terry Thomas front teeth since a family trait of both my mom and dad. Yul Brenner was bald and lots of hip folks are balding like T.D. Jakes etc. and MY DEARLY DEPARTED DAD.

    Sincerely,
    3rd person from left in 14th row of life…
    Ultimate Makeoverless in Dallas
    SEA

  10. Nicole says:

    Baldness suits you Dr. Phil. You don’t have a weird shaped head, so it works. If you had some odd alien-like head, then maybe you’d be more upset about your lack of hair :D

  11. Mini says:

    First of all – I love bald men – sigh! Blame Yul Brenner! Thern again I also love men with long hair…Blame Trace Adkins -double sih.
    But I digress….

    To answer your question: My flaw – my curly red hair.

    In highschool I looked like Ronald McDonald in drag -crossed with the character Pat from Saturday Night Live.

    I didn`t look female or feel attractive with my short Brillo pad bright red hair. Now that I am older there isn`t a week that goes by that I am not complimented on my now long signature red curls.

    `This too shall pass`said my Grandma when I complained about kids teasing me about my red curly hair all the time. She also told me someday women and men would admire and even envy my hair.AllI coiuld do was gasp and say,”Yeah right’.

    This was the woman who also said my freckles (since faded considerably from when I was young) were ‘àngel kisses`. I thought she was just being a Gramma and had to say nice things about her grandkids. But I realize she was asking me to take pride in being different or not the norm. She was very wise I have now realized.

    Dr. Phil – you your wife might want to save that phrase of `This too shall pass.`and the explanation of freckles for future granchildren. The red hair is pretty dominant gene. And from what I have seen of your side of the family onthe show and in photos you’ve shown of them you could have your own little redheads running around! Who knows?(wink). My mom has black hair and my Dad had dark brown. It could happen….

  12. Thought of another besides you, Yul Brynner & T. D. Jakes: Telly Savalas… Chris Daughtry that performed during 2009 Dallas Cowboy Thanskgiving Game rock too.

    It was 1st husband who dubbed me Terry Thomas teeth and Brezhnev brows and worse. However guys have feelings so… who’s to say that’s an insult even if meant as one. The same guy that smashed a tuna sandwich in my face since I just mixed with miracle whip w/o onions or eggs etc. Then threw his full glass of tea at me and said, “I thought you might like a glass of tea to go with that.” Who knew? I liked that way… What didn’t go on me went all over painting in dining room that my neighbor gave to me for mowing her law w/o her asking while she was in Europe so her home wouldn’t be vandalized. I still have that painting.

    Although, I sort of like those who said when the movie “Love Story” was popular that I looked like Ali MaGraw star when I was 16. Someone even came up to me in my 20’s when out to eat to ask if I was Ali MaGraw as many pounds as years ago. I remembered that nicer memory while taking an ABRA Stress Therapy bath after that other flash from the past… Oh well, no reason to tip toe down Haunted Memory Lane… as I still liked myself then and do now… It is what it is and that’s how it is as I just want a head to toe inside and out (the works) medical, dental and visual Ultimate Makeover to be healthier as I’d still want my Terry Thomas teeth even if Dr. Dorfman did his magic on me. However, would love my gallbladder “kicked to the curb”.

    Dr. Phil one BIG plus about those of us in the audience such as me “3rd from left in 14th row” of life and all the rest of us in audience whether there in person, in our living rooms and/or online is we are an important ingredient to all those on the stage. So is our collaboration sharing how helpful the Dr. Phil Show and The Doctors et al shows are. All of us tune in to see Dr. Phil’s authentic self and you usually help us to find our authentic selves and/or where we need to tweak. It’s all good.

    Sincerely,
    “3rd from left in 14th row” of life…
    Ultimate Makeoverless in Dallas
    SEA

  13. Laura says:

    Oh my gosh! I love “Maybe I’m just taller than my hair!” I will have to tell my dad that next time I trim “Team Hair” for him! What’s really funny is that my nephew recently went through Chemo and when he lost all his hair we could see he had the same hair line as Grandpa! We recently had my parents 50th wedding anniversary party and I put together a slide show of all the pictures from their wedding and the last 50 years. You should see the progression of the hair! My dad had a great “Elvis” head of hair on the day of his wedding! As the years go on you see less of it and then suddenly the toupee appears! After a few years it disappears and you can see the progression of baldness again. These days I look at him and think “He would just look weird with hair!” I can’t remember him with any! just the ring around the back and the few sprouts on top that I keep taking off!

    As for my flaws……..I always say weight, but that is something I can work on! But my flat butt is the worst! I have a horrible time trying to find pants that fit it right! One time a boyfriend came up behind me and tried to grab it for a little love squeeze and all he got was a handful of jeans! But while I hate that feature I know there are worse problems in the world. My nephew who I mentioned before who lost his hair to Chemo had to have surgery to remove the cancer, which was in his sinus cavity! Weston was diagnosed with Sarcomatoid carcinoma of the maxillary sinus – a very rare form of cancer. He is 1 out of about 5 people ever diagnosed with it in the sinus cavity! They got it all with surgery but he will have scars forever on his face from it. He is 20 years old and had a brain injury when he was five, found out he was diabetic at 17 and now this! Makes me very greatfull for my simple life! He has more faith then people twice his age!

  14. chanelle says:

    This whole topic is really funny, and I think for anyone to publish their flaws=mega confidence. I guess for me my flaw that isn’t noticeable on my face, would be my talking issue. I talk,talk, talk, and TALK. Sometimes I think people are mad at me, and they probably are, because I NEVER STOP TALKING. It’s almost like a tick; soon as I get a thought, I speak it. This leads to very unfortunate outcomes in rocky conversations, job interviews, and topics that I can relate to, which is anything someone says. I interrupt, try to finish peoples’ sentences, and tell my life story in 5 minutes. I think I’d really like to learn how to stop/slow down my verbal diarrhea, and just chill out.

  15. Sharon says:

    Dr. Phil,

    Every male, except for one, on my Dad’s side, including my Dad, all have a “do” just like you and I encourage you to brag about it.

    My Dad has always said, “God made me so smart it burnt the hair clean off my head before I was 18 years old, that’s one of the reasons I had to quit school in the eighth grade, the school-marm thought I was a smart mouth. So until the day comes that God parts your hair like the Red Sea you will finish school.”

    And my Mom who finally broke her Clairol addiction and allowed mother nature to shimmer her flocks with silver, she says, ” Don’t you just love my hair, its sprinkled with intelligence.”

  16. FosterBoys says:

    Height.

    I’m 5′0″ and have loved almost every minute of it. People never see you coming until it’s too late. No one expects a lion when they see a kitten.

    How much can you tell about a person just by reading their book? Do we know everything there is to know about you if we’ve read yours? Would my assessment of you be more or less on point or is there more (or less) to you than what I’ve read? I’m really on the fence here.

    I want to believe that you’re a nice person.

  17. Robin Davis says:

    I was a stylist for 20yrs. & cutting guys who wore the “comb over” was a chore!! I have had men totally go off on me for cutting that hair too short!! To me its a waste of time to have it!!! LET IT GO!! Face reality!! There is nothing wrong with being bald. On a sad note I once had a client who ended up with cancer & on chemo she was losing her hair & wanted her head shaved. Her hubby cried I cried she cried it was sad. We were a red hot mess!! LOL I think the blubbering was more about the cancer than the hair. When I got through we joked about her being able to sport it like Shanade O’Connor!! ( I know I misspelled) My point Don’t worry bout the hair!! There are bigger issues in the world!!

  18. Anita says:

    When I read about flaws, it made me think of diamonds.Diamonds run from flawless which is very rare and inexpensive to imperfect, which means the flaws can be seen without magnification. Exterior flaws are called blemishes and interior flaws are called inclusions. Inclusions are usually natural results of the diamonds formation. Blemishes can be natural, but many are caused by polishing. I think I’m an S11 and S12-slight inclusions-may be visible with the naked eye-even more visible with magnification. I am never flawless, but on occasion can be imperfect-my flaws clearly visible without magnification. I try not to drop into the lowest of the three classifications in imperfect-because it would damage my brilliance.

  19. prefer anonymous says:

    Re the comments people have written about curly hair. Having curly hair present real issues. Society presents a standard of grooming and neatness that conforms to the appearance of straight hair. A person wth straight hair can do almost nothing and be presentable and well groomed for the workplace. The natural curly hair in some ethic or racial groups is not considered acceptable or well groomed. It takes an inordinate amount of time and money for a person with ethnic, curly hair to have an appearance that is considered acceptable in a workplace. Then ethnic people are put down for being too concerned about hair or for having too elaborate of a hair style. I don’t think people realize how much money and work it takes for Michelle Obama or Condoleeza Rice to have those simple, professional hairstyles. First there are the straighteners, but then the straghtening and the heat damage the hair, so other products are needed to condition the hair. Put gray-cover on top of that and you can see the chemical balances needed. Cutting it is not always a solution since it is very difficult to find any stylist who knows how to cut curly hair, and then the hair has to be styled with products. In the morning, short frizzy hair defies gravity and stands straight up. Even with well-styled curly hair, I don’t think employers like it. The point is not to complain, but curly hair is a real budget buster and I wish our society was more tolerant of the natural appearance of different races and ethnic backgrounds.

  20. Janet Davies says:

    This must really bother you Dr Phil or you wouldn’t make fun of yourself or talk about it as you do. I don’t like it when you do that and I certainly wouldn’t make any comment to anyone based on their looks even if its to say they are looking good. I hate it when people say anything about my appearence. Women always say the same things. Oh I love your hair! Oh you lost weight! Its sooooo NOT important! Its whats in a person’s heart that really counts. All else is superficial.

  21. prefer anonymous says:

    What I really went to the site to comment on was Friday’s show. The comment Dr. Phil made about pampered children not knowing how to function in a dog-eat-dog world hit home to me. I was not pampered – quite the opposite – abused. But my grandparents were rural farm people and my family did not have any type of cosmopolitanism or savvy. Dr. Phil asked one of the young people why, if he was so smart, he was having trouble paying the rent. I struggle with this even though I am an older person. I worked hard at secretarial jobs and worked my way through school and I have two advanced degrees, worked for a long time, but with the recession having started 8 years ago, I am alone, unemployed and broke. I have a good personality and good skills and I work hard. I have definite achievements in my field. But I have that trouble Dr. Phil mentioned of not knowing how to function in a dog-eat-dog world. I can function well in a situation where there is correctness and politeness, but I somehow don’t know how to handle competition and adversity. Some people seem to know how to maneuver they way to success and I don’t know. People with so much less education have gone so much farther in jobs and careers that I am qualified for but can’t even break into. I used to have goals and strategies, but now I am so lost I don’t even know what goals to pursue, other than trying to get a job that is a reasonable match for my skills and experience. It doesn’t come from having been pampered. I started working when I was 16 and was self-supporting by 18. It comes from having grandparents who were simple rural people who never had the opportunity for education beyond working on a farm and a father who had a speech defect and a mother who never worked and was also an abuser. Take a person from that background and place them in the world of advanced degrees, nepotism and professional life and you can see how someone can become lost. Sometimes I feel that I don’t know what it is that I am supposed to know and don’t.

  22. please, dr. phil, give ms. stephenson what she wants!

  23. flaws i have learned to embrace? ha! i am staring at one of them. i have a progressive neurological disease that has done a number on any residual pride i might ever have had in my appearance.

    let’s take the object of my gaze: legs. at the moment, i have two of them, although my doctor decided to broach the possibility of amputating one of them two weeks ago. luckily, he’s not quite up to speed on this disorder, and amputation is normally contraindicated.

    so… i am stuck with these two legs. the right one is roughly twice the size of the left, deep purple, and cold enough to chill your non-alcoholic beer. the left one, despite its pleasingly petite girth, is bright red and sometimes very hot — though today it rivals its partner with its frigid temp.

    i forgot — the right leg twists out and down, sometimes taking walks without bringing the rest of the body along. egotistical appendage!

    all my life i have loved shoes. particularly italian shoes, and more particularly, red.

    i discovered, while cleaning out my office closet last night, that i still own three pairs of LEFT shoes, but no RIGHT ones. i haven’t been able to wear shoes since may 2002. yes, of course i could find shoes that fit, despite each foot being a radically different size, but unfortunately, i cannot stand the pain of a sock, much less a shoe.

    i get to leave my house roughly three times a month, usually to go to a medical appointment. on those occasions, i have these lovely open-toed, clodhopper-ish, shearling lined, velcro-boasting bedroom slippers that i sport, with panache. they hurt like heck but are the kindest things for my bleeping feet.

    about 3/4 of the way up each shin, there is a huge indentation in each leg. it is truly a lovely touch, and another great conversation starter. i pity those of you who cannot use the temperature, appearance, and writhing of your legs as a way to liven any dull party. in my home, there is no such thing as boredom, so long as i have my diseased legs to amuse us. “look what they’re doing now, ma!”

    chortle.

    another sometimes mortifying flaw? i don’t have any shoulders! oh, i take that back. i do *now* — two prostheses, one functioning pretty well, one an abysmal failure. but at any given time, without so much as a by-your-leave, my favorite orthopedic surgeon could yank them out. he did that three times per shoulder last year. there’s nothing like gazing up at the top shelf in the grocery store, and thinking “all i want for christmas are my shoulders…” thank goodness for the genius who invented those “grabber” thingies, eh wot?

    but easily the most mortifying flaw is this wretched wheelchair business. i have come to mimic what i know people expect from the wheelchair-bound, which is not much! people will pointedly address questions (to which i alone possess the answers) to the closest person standing on two legs. i will wave my arms (well, inasmuch as a person without shoulders can wave arms), yodel, “ahem, ahem,” all to no avail. it is as if i do not exist.

    and there’s little like the embarrassment of scraping a wall or doorway with the chair, or knocking over a store display. the odd phenomenon of somehow being considered public property, i’ve yet to figure out. just as folks don’t hesitate to touch a pregnant woman’s belly, folks don’t give grabbing my chair a second thought. and they seem to think that “riding around in that thing” is “cute,” or even: “that looks like fun! you’re a great driver!” ah, but they don’t know i am busy planning how to run over their toes by accident, do they?

    maybe you are thinking, “but, pointedly anonymous, where is the flaw in that? it sounds like harmless fun!” well, yes, until you know that in my mind i am simultaneously planning to run over these people at a very high speed and reminding myself how truly pointless is my existence. better to stay home behind high walls.

    the disease began in my right foot and left arm but has spread to all limbs and the lower part of my face. this means that i cannot hold hands with the man i love… this means that should he accidentally forget and reach to touch me, i scream in pain. a major flaw in decorum, this screaming tendency. it happens in public, as well, and is extraordinarily embarrassing. it most often results from the tendency of some to want to pat people firmly on the shoulder.

    i also have SLE (lupus) and some other junk that require daily doses of corticosteroids. just do a google search of corticosteroid side effects and the rest of my royal gimpiness will be clear to you: one buffalo hump, one round chubbed-out face, thin tearable skin, a never satisfied appetite…

    there are a few wonderful days when i manage to “embrace” all this crap. today is one, believe it or not! what makes the difference is being able to move and do things in my home; what makes the difference is feeling useful. for this to happen, pain must be successfully sublimated for a block of several hours. thanks to better living through chemistry, sometimes the stars align. for instance, today i have been able to manage our menagerie of cats (including several hairball attacks), start an awesome soup from the venerable “scratch,” wash three loads of laundry, do an hour of physical therapy (self-administered twice a day, no excuses allowed), rotate a queen mattress (a bit of an over-reach; i hurt my arms), do dishes, and mop the kitchen floor. it doesn’t sound like much, but each of these things is a source of pride and hope.

    i cannot, however, embrace my flaws on days when i am overcome with pain and self-pity (they go hand in hand, oddly enough). then all i can think about are red shoes and how important i think i used to be. all i feel and all i see are my physical limitations and suffering; i become convinced that they define me.
    again, oddly enough, when i feel and act accordingly, other people find me even more invisible than usual. strange!

    i don’t know if i could handle being bald, though. i do have thinning hair, and after reading some of the previous commentary, may now need a therapist to help me get over a lifetime of curly locks.

    humor is, as you prove quite often, doctor phil, the best medicine. second best are methadone and percocet. (good grief, moderators! cut that last sentence if it freaks y’all out…)

  24. Lorraine Ryan says:

    Dr. Phil,
    My hubby is bald but he is still “in process”… lol! He shaves his head about once every 10 days or so. For me… it’s my teeth. I am not a fan of dentists so I guess I have paid the price for that. Anything else that I could list on here would be things like procrastinating. I was going to go to a meeting for that but they kept changing the date on me… he he!! I tend to wait to get things done. Oh well, I still am good at my job and keep my hubby happy. He loves me “as is” and I do the same for him. We knew that going into our marriage. I feel blessed to have a man like him who accepts me the way I am.
    Lorraine Ryan

  25. Susan says:

    Why does someone with so little hair need 2 ladies to cut their hair? That a little much don’t you think?

  26. Gail Dagenais says:

    Hey Phil, Did you ever consider CELL TRANSPLANT?.. supposed to result in hair growth. As you always say, it’s what you portray from inside out that counts. So you have achieved that… not to worry about your dome. All the best!!

  27. Anita says:

    When I’m around someone a lot, I don’t notice things that I probably originally noticed. I’m not “around” DrP, don’t really know DrP, but in the years since I have been watching the show, I don’t notice the baldness. I don’t mean this in a negative way, but when DrP comes out on stage, he always looks the same, so I think maybe I listen more to what he is saying than to how he looks. I guess for me, the people that I see all the time, I don’t notice how they look, whether bald,hairy, short ,tall, heavy,skinny,whatever…I get used to how they look. I mean, I can’t imagine how someone could, for example, see DrP on the show on a regular basis and think, “Oh, there’s DrP and he’s bald again today”. I can only hope that’s how my friends see me and my flaws. I will say this, if you were to ask my husband about my flaws, he would say I don’t have any. And, yet, I do. So, I’m sure he is so used to seeing me, after 35 years, that he doesn’t concentrate on my flaws and I don’t think he ever did.

  28. grandma t says:

    who cares about the dome? its whats in your head and heart that counts. besides, dr phil, if you were any better looking robin mwould have you on a shorter leash

  29. Wendie Haines-Whalley says:

    One of the most wonderful, brilliant men I’ve ever met, my father-in-law, is a chrome dome like you. He began going bald at 26. I’ve never heard him refer to his lack of hair other than to comment about his irritation over having to wear sunscreen on his head. My son (26 now) is beginning to lose his hair and has already adopted the attitude of “Oh well, if it didn’t bother grandpa I guess it
    doesn’t need to bother me.”
    For you Dr. Phil, your shiney pate gives you endless opportunities to point out some of the things that we DON’T have to focus on. Things that don’t need to hold us back.
    As for me, when I was younger my big nose frequent topic of ridicule. I always thought that my big thighs were very ugly. Now, at 61, with a very full past I find that most physical things just don’t come up anymore. I’m just grateful to be alive most days and interested in what the next moments will hold for me.
    My husband and I TIVO the show and watch you together every evening. You keep our interest Dr. Phil. We laugh and cry, get angry and edified daily. Thanks!

  30. Jennifer says:

    Dr. Phil- I couldn’t picture you any other way than the way you are now. I myself haven’t embraced any of my flaws. The way I see myself is not good. My entire life everyone had always cut me down or tell me how bad I was. I’m now over weight & hate the way I look. I will say at one time I was a very kind & caring person. That part of me I haven’t shown in many years. Fear of getting hurt again. I have so many walls up it’s not even funny. Have no clue where to even begin letting them down. How do you embrace yourself when you don’t like yourself? Something to think about. I need help getting my weight off & help w/ my health. I have no idea where to begin. All I know is if one more person tells me that if I really wanted to lose weight I would have done so already. I swear I’ll puke. It’s not that simple for me. I’m ready for change. I can’t do it alone anymore. All i need is one person to reach out to me & help me. But I know thats probably never going to happen. I’m very close to just giving up & maybe just excepting that I’ll always be this way or I’ll die trying to get the help I desperatly need.

  31. Whitnee says:

    i think u look great bald. couldnt imagine u with hair.

  32. Hannah says:

    Dr. Phil–Having less hair doesn’t make you less deserving of respect. Personally, I have no problem with anyone showing more scalp than what can be considered typical. I have always been far less impressed with what a man has ON his head than what he has in it. Shine on!

  33. Rita Lions says:

    If bald was the new intellectual image, I’m sure many a man would want to look like you…. intelligent! However, if a mans intelligence can be counted by the amount of hair on his head then I’m sure there is a lot to be desired.
    Not everybody gets to be bald, keep their good looks and have sense of humour.

  34. Susan S says:

    My husband shaves his head bald every day. He also has a diamond earring and he is the hottest man on the planet earth.

    DR PHIL JUST DO IT!~ SHAVE IT ALL OFF!~ You take control over your hair not your hair taking control over you and if you have time off over Christmas holidays come out when nobody is looking and MAKE ROBIN’s eye pop out!
    THE ALL NEW DR PHIL WILL EMERGE!~

    It will actually make YOU LOOK 10 years YOUNGER not the other way around!
    If you love your new look great, If not at least you will give youurself enough time to grow it back before you have to be on TV AGAIN BUT I bet You will love it!~I cant even make my husband grow his hair back even though next week we will have snow ever single day!
    xox
    S

  35. Danielle Cassoff says:

    i agree with dr.phil! you should embrace your flaws and not try to change them ecspecially if its out of your control! like my learning disability ive learned its a part of me that is never going to change and at this point i dont know if i even want it to change!

  36. Katie D. says:

    One of my preschool students told me that the reason his father had no hair was because his father’s brain got so big, it pushed all the hair out of his head. I managed to keep a straight face, which was no easy matter!

    My father was bald and comfortable in his baldness, so it never seemed like a big deal to me. I only wish he were still living so I could share this story with him. He would have loved it!

    In answer to your question, the physical “flaw” that I have learned to embrace is my silver hair. I didn’t mind it at first, when there were only highlights, but later, I did reverse highlighting. I finally gave up and decided to save the money. After losing weight and working with a personal trainer to get in the best shape of my life, I now embrace my silver hair as my “signature.” Most people are surprised when they learn my real age, even with silver hair!

  37. Dr. Phil… I did it! I suggested a show on your son, Jay’s show, THE DOCTORS:

    http://www.thedoctorstv.com/produce/idea_comment/2813

    N.B. Just continue being authentically you, Dr. Phil.

    Sincerely,
    SEA

  38. Virginia says:

    I find bald men attractive and have since I was a young woman, never had the honor of going with one, but like a piece of art it’s something I find attractive.

    and the thing about me I’ve learned to embrace, is that I love deeply and like “Mary” sometimes it’s a sword to the heart. Maybe you can hurt as deeply as you love…maybe it’s like mirror images. I just hope I honor God in all of it, the valleys and the mountain tops. AND I cry just thinking about it.

  39. Blgspc says:

    Just a few advantages of baldness:

    1.) No BAD Hair Days!
    2.) Don’t have to worry if your curls are going to ‘fall out’ before show time!
    3.) Don’t have to worry about your tresses getting caught in the vehicle window on a windy day, as you roll it up!
    4.) Don’t need hair spray!
    5.) Never have to wonder, ‘Is this style In?’
    6.) Never have to worry with someone hounding you to get a haircut!
    7.) Never have to consider, ‘What kind of shampoo/conditioner/mousse should I use?’
    8.) Never have to ponder, ‘Am I spending too much money on my hair?’

    Oh and don’t worry, Bob and Jeff have probably gone looking for Carl, Fred, Henry, Doug, Leroy, Howard, Tom, Wesley, Michael, Elbert, Don, Ralph, Todd, Paul, Bill, Leon, Tim, Sam, Chris, Darrell, Nick, Andrew, Rufus, Winston, Mitchell, Simon, Harold, Jasper, Wally, Gerald, Harry, Pete, Samson, Benjamin, Ron, Malcolm, Daniel, William, Rodney, Clint, George, Mitchell, Jason, Craig, Joe, Chip, Clarence, Ken, Al, Rodney, Keith, Roger and John…essentially the last remaining portions of a row of hairs that mysterious disappeared over the last six months! Bob and Jeff just got caught-up in that “on-camera’ thing AND are only just missing the others! And, they say Hollywood doesn’t change ‘you’! Well, you just tell THAT to Bob and Jeff, that is IF you can find them! While Bob and Jeff were exchanging questions/comments like, ‘Does this make my shaft too shiny?’ AND ’I hope that all of these HOT BRIGHT LIGHTS don’t dry me out too much!’ The others just slipped away!
    Let this be a lesson, people! Hair today, Gone Tomorrow!

    BG :-)

  40. Racheal Rose says:

    Dr. Phil

    I went to college with a lot of women who found bald men very attractive. They said that bald men seemed more, well, manly, more virile, more successful. I remember them telling me that they actively pursued bald men especially–the more bald, the sexier. I am sure Robin is one of these women. While I know that most bald people are a little self-conscious about it, I just wanted to let you know, that isn’t entirely the case. Bald is beautiful.

  41. Kathy says:

    Dr. Phil, I think you look just like how you are suppose to look…and what a great inspiration for us to look up to. I mean, you are comfortable with the way you look and wouldn’t change anything about that… That’s a wonderful PRO to have!
    Kudos Dr. Phil!!

  42. Angie Reardon (Get Real Retreater) says:

    If you remember, I asked nicely to rub your baldness and you wouldnt let me.
    I think your bald head is attractive and not many people can wear it well like you do. I’ll be bald soon raising these two kids, so one day I may need your input! ha!

    Angie
    Virginia

  43. Cindy Venney says:

    I’ve never embraced any of my flaws, my size, my freckles, I have other flaws that only my husband myself and my doctor see, those i’ll never embrace, I’m embarrassed by them, I’m getting older and I think someday I’ll be so old it won’t matter to me anymore. I think its great that you don’t think anything of your baldness and I love it that you don’t bother with covering it up. I’ve seen men with hair pieces and I just want to go up to them and tell them they would look better if they took it off. Do they really think people can’t tell?

  44. BANSHE says:

    HA HA HA ROBIN IS FUNNY!!
    I find that if I just wait out my current flaw there is always a new one to come along and p*** me off more..so mostly I ignore them..why let’em get ya down, thats what the IRS is for.

  45. Michelle says:

    I was so excited to see that banner asking what flaws viewers have embraced in themselves! My name is Michelle and my biggest “flaw” is that I have had gray hair for the past 10 years. I am almost 20! And because I am Latina, it definitely shows. From 5th grade until 11th grade I colored my hair. I was so embarrassed of my hair, I hated myself. I thought I was the ugliest person and unfortunately didn’t treat myself well because of it.

    During my Junior year of high school I got a big confidence boost. I started realizing that I am a beautiful smart young woman who deserved to be treated well. I started treating myself better and really started to enjoy my life. I stopped coloring my hair the summer before my senior year and it has been natural since. My hair has grown so that all of the hair on top is gray (so thats all you can see although its still brown underneath). I think it is beautiful but it is usually a hit or miss with others. I have been told that I should color it or that I would be prettier if my hair was “normal”. Oh well!

    So I have definitely embraced my “flaw” of gray hair. I love it and think it is beautiful!

  46. LindaRH says:

    I’ve been thinking about this for days, and I can’t come up with any physical flaws that I can’t change to an acceptable level by a little effort or a haircut. I have plenty of internal thinking and emotional flaws though, and I work on them diligently!

    I have to say that you were blessed with lovely eyes that make up for lack of hair. (Robin would agree with me, I’m sure!)

  47. jennifer b says:

    Thats funny you soon after mentioned about a wise man you had met. Cause when i was reading your blog thats all i could think of but in different words. Is to learn to love what you got that it makes a difference to others cause others needs a leader. And to see someone with such confiedence that loves what they have! And can be the new trend since everyones into trends or whatever the proper name is!
    I like to be different. And show that not everyones way of thinking is right. Boys shouldnt be the only one to love the color blue girls shouldnt be the only one to love the color pink. Shoot i love both of them and some lol. SO i guess im an it! : )

    But really. We need more leaders more people showing that your not suppose to have just spiky or short or long hair for guys. Whats wrong with being baldish!? You know like you to be honest it looks seriously great on you! And im sure robin will agree? : )

    Some people might not be able to get away with it but i think they should still try. Cause its them its there time to be like that or anything else they go through. You can be the one to teach others to love what you got what you were born with what you could get! You think?
    I feel so strongly about this.

    Theres way to many judgmental people on earth. its about time people become commpassionate. And learning to love what they have easier said than done! Takes time! Everyone deals with things on there own time and there own way! People shouldnt also be so pushy and putting there opinions on one another were hear to listen or agree or just simply listen. We all want someone to listen to us hear there opinions. But im so tired of pushy people.
    Whats the crappy deal of it is sometimes i get pushy but i wont over due it. If i feel in my heart and soul im right like if i sense some danger or something better beilive ill say something to prevent it. Then some think omg shes pushy but then once they see it more than likly comes true they thank me and say there sorrys. I have to have so much patients which luckly i have lol.

    Anyways ill keep going sorry bout that. But love what you got show others that you feel great look great and heck make it the dr phil cut while your at it! : ) Really we need more people like this. : ) I might sound nuts to you lol. Sorry i hope you sordove see what im saying. Stay strong. You look great and robin you look great to hunny! Yall stay strong robin lend him that shoulder of yours. Yall are a wonderful couple im glad yall are great examples for the world to see! :) Protect each other love each other yall are doing a great job keep it up yall! : ) Also thank your son for making the drs. love that show to!

  48. Amber K. says:

    I love it that you’re so confident that you can make jokes about yourself like that, Dr. Phil! :) If you make the jokes first, when other people say it to hurt you, it doesn’t hurt because you already beat them to the punch! That’s what I do, too. :) I just wanted you to know Dr. Phil, I am a H U G E fan and I DVR your show every single day. Thank you for helping so many people on your show, and the people watching at home that can learn from what you say to the guests on your show. You know how to smack them around, then cuddle them and tell them how to fix it. (figuratively speaking) Keep up the good work, Dr. Phil! This world needs your help!! And, give Robin a big kiss, she’s amazing too!! :)

  49. marie stassin says:

    Dr. Phil, Hair does not make the man. intellegence, sense of humor, kindness etc. does. To which you get straight A’s. Hope i have helped you. (dr. Marie) just kidding. Marie sb

  50. Naomi says:

    I have to say i’m married to a military man and he has been going bald for as long as i have known him, he is only 25 and i see nothing wrong with it. I pick on him in a loving joking way, see he is balding in a shape of a Y, so when his hair gets longer it looks like he has a ducks beak on his front part of his head. He wants to do something about it, but i love him no matter how much hair he has. It is also and running joke in m house the more hair he loss up top the more he gets on his back and chest. We have a 2 year old daughter and she loves laying on his chest because she says it tickles (loves being tickled).

    I don’t think that it matters the amount of hair someone has, it matters about their personality and that is it. I say if your going bald love it own it and have fun with it.

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