Make a New Year's Resolution That Comes True!
Right about now, a lot of you are making your New Year’s resolutions, coming up with loooong lists of things you want to change about yourself, your life or maybe your spouse. HA! We’re going to fix him this year, right?
It’s always a lot of fun participating in this great American ritual of resolving to make things better with the coming of the New Year. Fun, for sure, but we all know that most of the time, talk is cheap — and “resolution talk” is really cheap. By late January, we pretty much forget about everything we resolved to change and go right back to the comfort zone we professed to be really tired of.
But, WHAT IF we actually decided to pick one or two things on our list and, no kidding, really changed them? It’s easy to chuckle about our annual habit of making and breaking New Year’s resolutions, and if it is just that — a fun exercise in fantasizing — then no problem. But if you really want to change something, then realize that the clock is ticking and that this next year, good ‘ol 2010, is about to go by whether you do something to effect change in your life or not.
And, guys, it’s not going to wait on you. Your life is not going to be the same this time next year. Your life is either going to be better or worse, but it will not be the same. If you want to lose weight, but you spend the next year making the same choices and maintaining the same behaviors that got you overweight in the first place, you are going to get heavier. If you want to improve your financial situation, but you continue the same spending habits, your bank account will continue to dwindle toward zero — or worse. If your marriage is plagued with hostility, and you don’t do anything to improve it … you get the picture. It is all about choices and how to implement them.
January 1 is just like any other day, but it’s as good a time as any to take a look at your list of New Year’s resolutions, pick out one or two key items on that list, and say, “I’m going to do something about them.” Don’t feel like you have to completely revolutionize your life and work on 10 different things. For now, focus on a couple of goals, and when you get those in hand, then move on to numbers three and four, and so on.
Look on my Web site for a plan that lays out exactly how you can make real change. It teaches you how to:
(1) Set a realistic, measureable goal.
(2) Identify the small but necessary steps you must take to reach that goal.
(3) Set up an environment that supports your new lifestyle, rather than relying on some vague emotional “will power.”
(4) Commit to a timeline, with specific deadlines, that pushes you to achieve your goal.
(5) Find a “resolution buddy” — someone you trust and can count on — who will definitely help hold you accountable in obtaining your goal.
To see the rest of the steps, click here.
Indeed, this is the year when you can finally make your resolutions mean something. You can make this the start of the most exciting time of your life. I promise you, you can do this. I’ve seen it happen over and over again. Happy New Year, everyone.