Comments on: Married Women Who Stray http://blog.drphil.com/2010/01/14/married-women-who-stray-who%e2%80%99s-doing-it-and-why/ Dr. Phil- Start A Change Reaction Sun, 19 May 2013 02:33:16 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8 hourly 1 By: Nina http://blog.drphil.com/2010/01/14/married-women-who-stray-who%e2%80%99s-doing-it-and-why/comment-page-6/#comment-160526 Nina Mon, 06 May 2013 15:07:26 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=2186#comment-160526 Yes I got my lover back through Dr. Abu. My wife left me six months ago. The longer she’s gone, the more I see what a jerk I was. At first, I blamed her for leaving. I told her she was ‘wrong’. In fact, I slapped Scripture on her, trying to guilt-induce her any way I could. My anger only pushed her farther away. I can’t believe the way I acted. My wife gave me chance after chance, and I ignored her. I contacted Dr. Abu and within a few minutes of speaking with him, I realized that Dr. Abu was the one person whom I could completely trust. Within 48 hours, My wife is back in my life. I can’t thank him enough and I will use Dr. Abu again for further work in the future. Yes I got my lover back through Dr. Abu. My wife left me six months ago. The longer she’s gone, the more I see what a jerk I was. At first, I blamed her for leaving. I told her she was ‘wrong’. In fact, I slapped Scripture on her, trying to guilt-induce her any way I could. My anger only pushed her farther away. I can’t believe the way I acted. My wife gave me chance after chance, and I ignored her. I contacted Dr. Abu and within a few minutes of speaking with him, I realized that Dr. Abu was the one person whom I could completely trust. Within 48 hours, My wife is back in my life. I can’t thank him enough and I will use Dr. Abu again for further work in the future.

]]> By: Hinsarmu http://blog.drphil.com/2010/01/14/married-women-who-stray-who%e2%80%99s-doing-it-and-why/comment-page-6/#comment-137061 Hinsarmu Sun, 13 Jan 2013 18:37:36 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=2186#comment-137061 some really mean and huftrul things to my girlfriend. I even accused her of cheating and told her I wanted to get a DNA test on the baby. My girl is not the kind to cheat either, she is a great and good girl. Very responsible, serious, respectful, beautiful, the perfect package. Anyways we had a long talk about why I didn't trust her. I really did trust her, its just that I was mad about other stuff and for some reason I don't know how to express how I am feeling so I just get mad about other stuff. I took my anger out on her. I know how wrong and despicable I am because I needed to be more considerate of her because she is pregnant and very sensitive at this time. Treating her this way can be very dangerous.Anyways on the day after, she told me about how she cried all night and the she didn't want to be with me anymore. I begged her to take me back like a pathetic fool and she kept saying no. I told her to tell me that she doesn't love me anymore and I would leave her alone and she said no because she still does love me and she can't tell me a lie about how she feels. She said that she would take me back if we kept our relationship a secret and I said no because that made me feel like she was ashamed of me. She then told me that she needed time. I called her that night and she told the same things. Anyways I sent her a week of teddy bears with roses and very nice chocolates and apologetic love letters. On about the third day she got online and I talked to her and she said that everything was very nice and that she liked but she can't take me back because she would feel like a dumbass and that her family would talk sh*t about her because they found out about the situation. I kept begging her and she kept saying no and she said she is never going to forgive and never going to take me back. I told her that I had changed for real and that my eyes were open and things would be different but she won't beleive me because I have made this promise before. I kept pleading with her and she told me that I was driving her nuts, that she made her myspace again (she deleted it before because we would get mad about each others myspace, this will have significance later)to leave her alone, and to never speak to her again.On the fifth and final day of gifts, which was a plush sad sam puppy stuffed animal with roses and a sad note, I told her brother (who has been helping me out the whole time) to tell his sister to get online so I could tell her something important and real short and that it would not make her mad. She got on and I told her that I agreed with her decision to end our relationship. She asked me why and I told her that I understood that this is what she wanted and I have to respect that. I apologized to her for bothering her and acting so crazy after the break up. I told her that I didn't wanted to be friends with her and that to not worry about the kid that I am going to support it no matter what and that if she ever needed help with anything that I would have her back no matter what. She said thank you that is what I want. She said that she doesn't know if we going to be in the future together and I was like ok that's cool not really showing interest and I told her goodbye and take care and signed off right away. After I signed off she said goodbye take care like two minutes after I signed off, meaning I think she kept looking at the screen thinking about it. Anyways, I prayed to God after that and i asked him to help me out with this problem with my girl.The strangest thing happened later that night. She called me really late at night and when my mom gave me the phone I said hey how are you? she said good and I said good and immediately she said Jayson I love you I still love you alot. I couldn't hold my feelings for her and I told her that I love her too. She thanked me for all the gifts she had been recieving and said she really loved the sad sam puppy that she received. I couldn't hold back and told her that I still wanted to be with her and that I wanted to have a family with her. I told her I wanted to take care of her and our child. I apologized and I said that I really am cI apologized and I said that I really am changed and that if she gave me another chance that I could make her happy. She told me she wants to be with me and that she doesn't want anyone else. I kept apologizing and I told her that what really hurt me the most was not that she left but that I hurt her and that the one thing in the world that makes me feel good is when I know that she is smiling and feeling good because of something that I did to or for her. I told her that it wasn't that I needed her but that I wanted her. We talked for like an hour and I know this is a mistake but I love her and she has my child I can't play these break up games with this girl because the stakes are so much higher. Well we talked on the phone for like an hour and we just kept telling each other about how wemiss each other and love each other and want to be with each other and telling each other about what has been happening in our lives this week. I asked her if her myspace said she was single and she said no that she didn't want to change it. That the only reason why she put it back up was to check for messages from friends and family. She asked me why I deleted mine and I told her that I did so because it was distracting me from doing what I need to be doing and from my training by the way I forgot to mention that I am going to marines bootcamp in like three weeks. She said that she would really think about getting back with me this time and that she was really considering it, but she doesn't want what has already happened to happen again. She just doesn't want to get hurt again. I am really hoping we get back together.Do you think that we are going to get back together? What should I do in the meantime? Do I call her and leave her messages telling her how much I love her or do I leave her alone and give her time to think and some space? Did I give in too easy when she called me? I'm so confused right now and I'm scared of losing her. Please, any advice or opinions would be greatly appreciated. Thank you ladies. some really mean and huftrul things to my girlfriend. I even accused her of cheating and told her I wanted to get a DNA test on the baby. My girl is not the kind to cheat either, she is a great and good girl. Very responsible, serious, respectful, beautiful, the perfect package. Anyways we had a long talk about why I didn’t trust her. I really did trust her, its just that I was mad about other stuff and for some reason I don’t know how to express how I am feeling so I just get mad about other stuff. I took my anger out on her. I know how wrong and despicable I am because I needed to be more considerate of her because she is pregnant and very sensitive at this time. Treating her this way can be very dangerous.Anyways on the day after, she told me about how she cried all night and the she didn’t want to be with me anymore. I begged her to take me back like a pathetic fool and she kept saying no. I told her to tell me that she doesn’t love me anymore and I would leave her alone and she said no because she still does love me and she can’t tell me a lie about how she feels. She said that she would take me back if we kept our relationship a secret and I said no because that made me feel like she was ashamed of me. She then told me that she needed time. I called her that night and she told the same things. Anyways I sent her a week of teddy bears with roses and very nice chocolates and apologetic love letters. On about the third day she got online and I talked to her and she said that everything was very nice and that she liked but she can’t take me back because she would feel like a dumbass and that her family would talk sh*t about her because they found out about the situation. I kept begging her and she kept saying no and she said she is never going to forgive and never going to take me back. I told her that I had changed for real and that my eyes were open and things would be different but she won’t beleive me because I have made this promise before. I kept pleading with her and she told me that I was driving her nuts, that she made her myspace again (she deleted it before because we would get mad about each others myspace, this will have significance later)to leave her alone, and to never speak to her again.On the fifth and final day of gifts, which was a plush sad sam puppy stuffed animal with roses and a sad note, I told her brother (who has been helping me out the whole time) to tell his sister to get online so I could tell her something important and real short and that it would not make her mad. She got on and I told her that I agreed with her decision to end our relationship. She asked me why and I told her that I understood that this is what she wanted and I have to respect that. I apologized to her for bothering her and acting so crazy after the break up. I told her that I didn’t wanted to be friends with her and that to not worry about the kid that I am going to support it no matter what and that if she ever needed help with anything that I would have her back no matter what. She said thank you that is what I want. She said that she doesn’t know if we going to be in the future together and I was like ok that’s cool not really showing interest and I told her goodbye and take care and signed off right away. After I signed off she said goodbye take care like two minutes after I signed off, meaning I think she kept looking at the screen thinking about it. Anyways, I prayed to God after that and i asked him to help me out with this problem with my girl.The strangest thing happened later that night. She called me really late at night and when my mom gave me the phone I said hey how are you? she said good and I said good and immediately she said Jayson I love you I still love you alot. I couldn’t hold my feelings for her and I told her that I love her too. She thanked me for all the gifts she had been recieving and said she really loved the sad sam puppy that she received. I couldn’t hold back and told her that I still wanted to be with her and that I wanted to have a family with her. I told her I wanted to take care of her and our child. I apologized and I said that I really am cI apologized and I said that I really am changed and that if she gave me another chance that I could make her happy. She told me she wants to be with me and that she doesn’t want anyone else. I kept apologizing and I told her that what really hurt me the most was not that she left but that I hurt her and that the one thing in the world that makes me feel good is when I know that she is smiling and feeling good because of something that I did to or for her. I told her that it wasn’t that I needed her but that I wanted her. We talked for like an hour and I know this is a mistake but I love her and she has my child I can’t play these break up games with this girl because the stakes are so much higher. Well we talked on the phone for like an hour and we just kept telling each other about how wemiss each other and love each other and want to be with each other and telling each other about what has been happening in our lives this week. I asked her if her myspace said she was single and she said no that she didn’t want to change it. That the only reason why she put it back up was to check for messages from friends and family. She asked me why I deleted mine and I told her that I did so because it was distracting me from doing what I need to be doing and from my training by the way I forgot to mention that I am going to marines bootcamp in like three weeks. She said that she would really think about getting back with me this time and that she was really considering it, but she doesn’t want what has already happened to happen again. She just doesn’t want to get hurt again. I am really hoping we get back together.Do you think that we are going to get back together? What should I do in the meantime? Do I call her and leave her messages telling her how much I love her or do I leave her alone and give her time to think and some space? Did I give in too easy when she called me? I’m so confused right now and I’m scared of losing her. Please, any advice or opinions would be greatly appreciated. Thank you ladies.

]]> By: Anonymous http://blog.drphil.com/2010/01/14/married-women-who-stray-who%e2%80%99s-doing-it-and-why/comment-page-6/#comment-136310 Anonymous Sat, 05 Jan 2013 23:40:08 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=2186#comment-136310 The day I decided I was going to break up with my boyfriend, was the same day I found out I was pregnant. I couldn't bring myself to have an abortion and thank God everyday for our beautiful son, he is an amazing human being. My boyfriend had a child with another woman, they were never married and when I met him, they both had other relationships, but were civil to each other for the sake of their daughter. The strange thing is, the mother of his child, who was in a relationship at the time with another man, gave me hell! She didn't want my boyfriend, and she didn't want anyone else to have him. I endured this behavior for 3 years, until I had enough, when I finally came to the decision to leave him, I was emotionally drained, I couldn't take the strain on our relationship. He allowed this other woman to manipulate him and she used her daughter against him. Why? I didn't break up their relationship! Anyway ... So there I was pregnant, no job, no degree, I was studying couldn't finish for obvious reasons. I have always been a person in total control of my life and boy did I get a shock. I was always the one to look at life black or white, I realized that I never had control of my life, and it's very easy to judge others, not until you experience the twist and turns yourself. We decided to get married, I convinced myself that I would learn to love him more and was determined that my son would not grow up without a father. He has been an excellent father to both his children and he's been a wonderful man to me. As time went on and his daughter got older there were new challenges, I was never able to have a parental roll in her life, he allowed her to walk all over me, we always argued. I have always suspected that he cheated on me, but he denies it every time. We grew distant, but stayed together, we went to counseling once a month. The sex was an issue, he has premature ejaculation every time, still can't control it, our counsellor gave us techniques to try, but it hasn't worked. In the end, I have had affairs, I've told him, and he still loves me, he's very kind, and caring, which makes me feel so very guilty. I should never have married him some might say, but I wanted to give it a try, at least for my son. We've been together for 20 years now, and in the last 5 years I've been totally faithful. I have been minding my own business, until a couple of months ago, I met a married man with 4 children. I mean really? Whose sense of humor is this? This man does things to me that I have never felt before, my ears go warm whenever he's next to me, and can hardly breath, I don't feel to eat, he makes me feel so happy. We get along so well together that someone thought he was my husband, we have never had sex of any kind and have been in touch with each other throughout the entire holidays texting and emailing, I am dying to see him again, but fare that he has had a reality sandwich served up to him and has had a change of heart, and now my heart is breaking. Never thought I would be in this position again, I do not want to be responsible for destroying anyone's family and I'm trying to work through the pain I'm feeling right now, yet still I want to see him again. He as awoken feelings in me that I forgot I had, but the ears going warm is a new one, lol, but that's life isn't it? To feel, from overflowing with love, to the dark hole of emptiness. I long to feel my heart overflowing with love again. The day I decided I was going to break up with my boyfriend, was the same day I found out I was pregnant. I couldn’t bring myself to have an abortion and thank God everyday for our beautiful son, he is an amazing human being.

My boyfriend had a child with another woman, they were never married and when I met him, they both had other relationships, but were civil to each other for the sake of their daughter. The strange thing is, the mother of his child, who was in a relationship at the time with another man, gave me hell! She didn’t want my boyfriend, and she didn’t want anyone else to have him. I endured this behavior for 3 years, until I had enough, when I finally came to the decision to leave him, I was emotionally drained, I couldn’t take the strain on our relationship. He allowed this other woman to manipulate him and she used her daughter against him. Why? I didn’t break up their relationship! Anyway …

So there I was pregnant, no job, no degree, I was studying couldn’t finish for obvious reasons. I have always been a person in total control of my life and boy did I get a shock. I was always the one to look at life black or white, I realized that I never had control of my life, and it’s very easy to judge others, not until you experience the twist and turns yourself.

We decided to get married, I convinced myself that I would learn to love him more and was determined that my son would not grow up without a father. He has been an excellent father to both his children and he’s been a wonderful man to me.
As time went on and his daughter got older there were new challenges, I was never able to have a parental roll in her life, he allowed her to walk all over me, we always argued. I have always suspected that he cheated on me, but he denies it every time. We grew distant, but stayed together, we went to counseling once a month. The sex was an issue, he has premature ejaculation every time, still can’t control it, our counsellor gave us techniques to try, but it hasn’t worked.

In the end, I have had affairs, I’ve told him, and he still loves me, he’s very kind, and caring, which makes me feel so very guilty. I should never have married him some might say, but I wanted to give it a try, at least for my son.

We’ve been together for 20 years now, and in the last 5 years I’ve been totally faithful. I have been minding my own business, until a couple of months ago, I met a married man with 4 children. I mean really? Whose sense of humor is this?
This man does things to me that I have never felt before, my ears go warm whenever he’s next to me, and can hardly breath, I don’t feel to eat, he makes me feel so happy. We get along so well together that someone thought he was my husband, we have never had sex of any kind and have been in touch with each other throughout the entire holidays texting and emailing, I am dying to see him again, but fare that he has had a reality
sandwich served up to him and has had a change of heart, and now my heart is breaking. Never thought I would be in this position again, I do not want to be responsible for destroying anyone’s family and I’m trying to work through the pain I’m feeling right now, yet still I want to see him again. He as awoken feelings in me that I forgot I had, but the ears going warm is a new one, lol, but that’s life isn’t it? To feel, from overflowing with love, to the dark hole of emptiness.
I long to feel my heart overflowing with love again.

]]> By: DumbWife http://blog.drphil.com/2010/01/14/married-women-who-stray-who%e2%80%99s-doing-it-and-why/comment-page-5/#comment-136246 DumbWife Sat, 05 Jan 2013 04:21:40 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=2186#comment-136246 Well, I am telling you that when your spouse decides that sex is no longer needed in your marriage, you can look for the trouble around some corner in the future. I never considered cheating. Thought that was for weak people who did not really love their spouse. Long story short, I got my head turned just long enough to find out I did not want another man. Twenty years later, I feel the total fool. Husband was impotent then and did not explain that to me. Over the years, it has become quite apparent. Here I am all these years with no sex. I love my husband, but this is ridiculous. Young hearts, run free. You might be totally in love with somebody, but none of us know what the future holds. For better or worse. Well, I've learned to take the bad with the good. Cheating is not the way to go though. If it does not work anymore, get out. A cheater cheats themselves. And just for the record, I do not believe my husband was totally faithful early in our marriage. You only have one life, don't tie yourself down to the great unknown. Well, I am telling you that when your spouse decides that sex is no longer needed in your marriage, you can look for the trouble around some corner in the future. I never considered cheating. Thought that was for weak people who did not really love their spouse. Long story short, I got my head turned just long enough to find out I did not want another man. Twenty years later, I feel the total fool. Husband was impotent then and did not explain that to me. Over the years, it has become quite apparent. Here I am all these years with no sex. I love my husband, but this is ridiculous. Young hearts, run free. You might be totally in love with somebody, but none of us know what the future holds. For better or worse. Well, I’ve learned to take the bad with the good. Cheating is not the way to go though. If it does not work anymore, get out. A cheater cheats themselves. And just for the record, I do not believe my husband was totally faithful early in our marriage. You only have one life, don’t tie yourself down to the great unknown.

]]> By: Viria http://blog.drphil.com/2010/01/14/married-women-who-stray-who%e2%80%99s-doing-it-and-why/comment-page-5/#comment-136044 Viria Thu, 03 Jan 2013 02:26:53 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=2186#comment-136044 I stated having problem with my husband when I found I was pregnant with my third child in April. I was torn, because I found out in the Fall of last year, my husband is having an affair, and the other woman is pregnant, due this summer. I was devasted, shocked and saddened. He promised he would stop seeing her and devote his life to me and our kids. Well it didn't happen, and I didn't think it was fair to bring another child into such an unstable environment. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do, but I think I made the right decision for me and my kids because i met a woman who do spell with email, she assured me of having my husband back in full and he would stop seeing the other woman, I could not bear the pain i allowed her to work for me and in 2days after she has done the spell, the other lady was then history it was shocking any way, she had miscarriage and hence forth never had anything to do with my husband,. This is something I will carry in my heart forever and be thankful for bringing happiness back to my family!!! I stated having problem with my husband when I found I was pregnant with my third child in April. I was torn, because I found out in the Fall of last year, my husband is having an affair, and the other woman is pregnant, due this summer. I was devasted, shocked and saddened. He promised he would stop seeing her and devote his life to me and our kids. Well it didn’t happen, and I didn’t think it was fair to bring another child into such an unstable environment. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do, but I think I made the right decision for me and my kids because i met a woman who do spell with email, she assured me of having my husband back in full and he would stop seeing the other woman, I could not bear the pain i allowed her to work for me and in 2days after she has done the spell, the other lady was then history it was shocking any way, she had miscarriage and hence forth never had anything to do with my husband,. This is something I will carry in my heart forever and be thankful for bringing happiness back to my family!!!

]]> By: Russell http://blog.drphil.com/2010/01/14/married-women-who-stray-who%e2%80%99s-doing-it-and-why/comment-page-5/#comment-133569 Russell Sun, 09 Dec 2012 19:22:47 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=2186#comment-133569 Hello Dr. Phil I've watched you're show for many years and I understand women are the main driver of your issues. My question is why are men with cheating wives told to step up as hero's in they're families. While the wife of a cheating husband is told she deserves better. Are you not saying to men that they don't deserve better and should settle for less. I for one don't believe that trust can be repaired. If tried you will only be lying to yourself. Why are you giving such different advice for men and women? Men and women both hurt the same and deserve the same. Hello Dr. Phil
I’ve watched you’re show for many years and I understand women are the main driver of your issues. My question is why are men with cheating wives told to step up as hero’s in they’re families. While the wife of a cheating husband is told she deserves better. Are you not saying to men that they don’t deserve better and should settle for less. I for one don’t believe that trust can be repaired. If tried you will only be lying to yourself. Why are you giving such different advice for men and women? Men and women both hurt the same and deserve the same.

]]> By: Lynne http://blog.drphil.com/2010/01/14/married-women-who-stray-who%e2%80%99s-doing-it-and-why/comment-page-5/#comment-122442 Lynne Mon, 10 Sep 2012 17:25:28 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=2186#comment-122442 I am 23 my ex husband cheated on me with multiple women over our 3 year marriage. With over 20 women that I know of. I finally left him. The man I am with now for over 3years is a good man but I have never been with someone who will not give or receive oral. There was a man at work who would flirt with me. And would tell me how I deserve to be happy sexually especially being so young. I wanted to cheat but I never want anyone to feel the pain I did so I never went passed the flirting. The part that is so hard is I want the intimacy with my man I have communicated so many times all he can reply is I just don't like it. And I tell him but this is something I enjoy even more then intercourse. And he leaves the conversation any way he can. I don't want to leave but I'm tired of only doing what he wants how he want and only when he wants sex. I want to feel like he wants to make me feel good sexually. I am 23 my ex husband cheated on me with multiple women over our 3 year marriage. With over 20 women that I know of. I finally left him. The man I am with now for over 3years is a good man but I have never been with someone who will not give or receive oral. There was a man at work who would flirt with me. And would tell me how I deserve to be happy sexually especially being so young. I wanted to cheat but I never want anyone to feel the pain I did so I never went passed the flirting. The part that is so hard is I want the intimacy with my man I have communicated so many times all he can reply is I just don’t like it. And I tell him but this is something I enjoy even more then intercourse. And he leaves the conversation any way he can. I don’t want to leave but I’m tired of only doing what he wants how he want and only when he wants sex. I want to feel like he wants to make me feel good sexually.

]]> By: william http://blog.drphil.com/2010/01/14/married-women-who-stray-who%e2%80%99s-doing-it-and-why/comment-page-5/#comment-122169 william Sat, 08 Sep 2012 09:36:51 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=2186#comment-122169 hi my name is williami been with my wife for 21 years we have two kids 21 and 15 just recent my wife told me to change some numbers in her phone i found a message saying hi lance if your wife ant satifying you then who is you know i had feeling for you then she send it . she been knowing this guy for 4 years i didnt know nothing about it. when i told her about it her face drop . she kept lying to me more more . i love her alot but im i felt sick inside that she did this to me i dont know she slept with guy but she ignore me for years i told her that i felted like her room mate not her husband she cry when say that to her im confuse about all this because im hate her more and more everyday because she betray me i dont trust her no more hi my name is williami been with my wife for 21 years we have two kids 21 and 15 just recent my wife told me to change some numbers in her phone i found a message saying hi lance if your wife ant satifying you then who is you know i had feeling for you then she send it . she been knowing this guy for 4 years i didnt know nothing about it. when i told her about it her face drop . she kept lying to me more more . i love her alot but im i felt sick inside that she did this to me i dont know she slept with guy but she ignore me for years i told her that i felted like her room mate not her husband she cry when say that to her im confuse about all this because im hate her more and more everyday because she betray me i dont trust her no more

]]> By: tim http://blog.drphil.com/2010/01/14/married-women-who-stray-who%e2%80%99s-doing-it-and-why/comment-page-5/#comment-121214 tim Mon, 27 Aug 2012 12:54:03 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=2186#comment-121214 If a wife ignores her husband or vice versa, the marriage vow to love and cherish has already been broken. Therefore, having an emotional affair etc after is ok since the circle has already been broken open. No one person can satisfy your needs. There is nothing wrong with finding satisfaction in someone other than your spouse if your spouse can't fullfill your needs. If a wife ignores her husband or vice versa, the marriage vow to love and cherish has already been broken. Therefore, having an emotional affair etc after is ok since the circle has already been broken open.

No one person can satisfy your needs. There is nothing wrong with finding satisfaction in someone other than your spouse if your spouse can’t fullfill your needs.

]]> By: m. Tanguay http://blog.drphil.com/2010/01/14/married-women-who-stray-who%e2%80%99s-doing-it-and-why/comment-page-5/#comment-23685 m. Tanguay Fri, 15 Jul 2011 01:02:05 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=2186#comment-23685 Dr. Phil I am seeking advice on marrige counseling. We have been married for 31 years and it seems these days my husband needs to drink and use recreational drugs to get through the day. Our home is getting ignored and I feel I am second in the or sometimes third in the list of priorities in our life. I have had many incidents where i have confronted him with this and still he does not change is ways he use to drink once maybe twice a week but now its a three probably four days. My kids who are now adults have formed this opinion or should I say see him for what it is I still make excuses. I stil love him but want him to see Me. See what we have or could loose if this continues. I am always sad these days, our youngest is strugling with an addiction of his own and with all of this combined I am feeling a great sense of despair. I am looking for help. Is there a site out there that you reccomend. It would mean so much to me to seek help or hear from others so I don't feel so alone. I will check my email for your response. Thaks so much. mdtang@yahoo.com Dr. Phil I am seeking advice on marrige counseling. We have been married for 31 years and it seems these days my husband needs to drink and use recreational drugs to get through the day. Our home is getting ignored and I feel I am second in the or sometimes third in the list of priorities in our life. I have had many incidents where i have confronted him with this and still he does not change is ways he use to drink once maybe twice a week but now its a three probably four days. My kids who are now adults have formed this opinion or should I say see him for what it is I still make excuses. I stil love him but want him to see Me. See what we have or could loose if this continues. I am always sad these days, our youngest is strugling with an addiction of his own and with all of this combined I am feeling a great sense of despair. I am looking for help. Is there a site out there that you reccomend. It would mean so much to me to seek help or hear from others so I don’t feel so alone. I will check my email for your response. Thaks so much.

mdtang@yahoo.com

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