Comments on: Are You Raising a Bully?

By: judith j thompson

judith j thompson — Fri, 07 Dec 2012 21:08:42 +0000

why would an adult suggest to another adult to fold to a child mistreating their child and find another means of transportation to school for the target child’s safety and parents peace of mind. Why hasn’t the bus driver put the bully in a assigned seat or off the bus if they can’t act with some respect for others. I am by far not mother of the year and my family has it’s own problems but I would not tolerate one of my kids treating another kid like these parents allow. Bottom line is, I am the boss here and if they can’t act like they have good sense they will hate me but they wont be permitted to mistreat anyone ever not on my watch. Some of the parents to these bullies should show these kids what humiliation is arent u bigger than the child or are u afraid of them too. It’s obsurd even to someone outside the cookie cutter family.

By: leila carmon

leila carmon — Wed, 06 Jul 2011 11:55:43 +0000

Dr phil you make the world a better place

By: imbunky2

imbunky2 — Sun, 13 Mar 2011 23:22:54 +0000

My 6 & 7 yr old grandchildren are “bullies”. Through my many calls continually requesting help for them, I recently learned directly from the Mental Health Association (in our County) that they have been and still are conducting in-school demonstrations as well as in-class demonstrations, teaching students of all ages, ‘What consitutes bullying’ and ‘How to handle bullying situations’, using the students themselves. I immediately contacted my grandchildren’s School Principal to suggest this Program be given at their school. I have not been able to follow up as yet. This Principal is fantastic! If I cannot change my grandchildren’s behavior, perhaps I can protect others from their harm.

Please, no advice or lectures. I am a loving, devoted grandmother. These beautiful children are receiving all the help I (and other’s) can possibly ensure they receive – physicians, counselling, medications, wonderful teachers and especially an unbelievable school principal. The 6 yr. old is on SSI ALREADY and the government “agencies” are well aware of the situations with the children.

By: Selina in Australia

Selina in Australia — Mon, 27 Dec 2010 05:18:04 +0000

I find it astonishing that bullying policies are only now been written and implemented into schools in the US. In Australia every state school and private school has a bullying policy and promotes being an “anti-bullying” school. These have been no raving success as their ability to adhere to these policies is somewhat limited by having to view the bully as a victim too. They are often the kids who struggle academically, from broken families and emotionally or financially deprived, or they are the rich, spoilt variety and have parents with connections and money who can bully teachers and principals. Bullying policies are too generic and are either not used at all or are up to interpretation. In Australia we need to have a multi-faceted bullying policy that is developed for the whole country so that every man, woman and child knows the exact outcomes for bullies and victims, so there is no “grey area” that can be used for or against a child.

By: Shari

Shari — Thu, 23 Dec 2010 02:34:12 +0000

Things weren’t nearly this bad a generation ago… Where did all this bullying come from?? From the top, down. From presidents lying to start needless wars, the most recent in Iraq. From politicians running the dirtiest campaigns they can and coming out ”winners”. Religious ”leaders” who rake in $$$ while their sheeple go hungry. Business leaders doing *anything* for a buck no matter how many people are hurt, how many marriages destroyed, how many little kids scared and confused because mommy and daddy were financially assaulted by loser CEOs.

The bullying at the top has got to stop!!

By: Patricia

Patricia — Sat, 04 Dec 2010 05:50:47 +0000

Dr. Phil, I just saw an ad for the Video Barbie doll. What a wonderful tool they have created for young people to post videos of others for the purpose of being to use the term loosely – Funny….. Forget about predators – this is really great (sarcasm intended here) for teens and younger kids to really stick it too the ones they want to embarrass, humiliate and just plain be mean too. Please address this dangerous toy.

By: Cassie Helton

Cassie Helton — Fri, 03 Dec 2010 05:26:29 +0000

Sorry, hate to say it but I disagree with almost EVERYTHING that the author of the book had to say…especially in regards to respect.

By: sarah

sarah — Thu, 02 Dec 2010 01:11:25 +0000

i have a bully for a child. it pains me to think that he is making fun of other kids in school. As i was made fun of all through school.I dont know how to make him stop. he bullies his little sister who is 7. Makes her cry tries to scare her all the time. Its like he can’t control his own mouth. It gets him in trouble in school, at home, at his dads, just about every where. I went to pick him up from school today and the principal called to tell me he has 2 days in school suspention for bullying a girl. It wasn’t the girl who told but her friends due to being sick and tired of his mouth and the very nasty things that come out of it. I have taken his snowboard his xbox the computer and going anywhere with any one or doing anything fun away. Now what?

By: Cate from Oz

Cate from Oz — Wed, 01 Dec 2010 13:47:08 +0000

In the last paragraph of my comments, These days, I know how not be “nice” without being “weak” is meant to be These days, I know how TO be “nice”. If you could edit that, I’d appreciate it

By: Cate from Oz

Cate from Oz — Wed, 01 Dec 2010 13:43:29 +0000

My son was bullied mercilessly at school. He was the “runt” of the litter and other kids saw him as an easy target. His father died when he was 3 and I was doing my best to raise him on my own. I tried school after school after school without any improvement and the department of education was really no help in solving the problems. When my son turned 15, he had a huge growth spurt and was suddenly taller and wider than all the other kids his age. This led to kids who thought they were tough, constantly picking fights with him to prove their manhood. With my son’s increased size came increased aggression and he began to fight back. One day, three kids jumped him from behind and one beat him about the head with his arm, which was in a plaster cast. My son completely lost it and put two of them in hospital. The boys that attacked him were suspended from school for 3 days. My son was suspended for 3 weeks. He dropped out of school shortly after and suffered from extreme depression for many years. Thankfully, I was able to get him help. The moral of the story is that people who are hurt tend to hurt other people. If a child is a bully, you have to find out what is happening in their life to make them that way and fix it. I feel that we live in an era where kids grow up thinking it’s cool to be mean. There seems to be very little courtesy, consideration or empathy in society now. I feel that a lot of this comes from film and television and a lot comes from within our own homes. Human relationships seem to be a constant battle of egos and a quest for power. As adults, we need to realise that children learn from our behaviour and we need to be good role models for them. In the past, I was always a bit of a doormat for other people. I am, by nature, a pacifist (which I expressed as submissiveness in earlier times). I feel that I was a bad example for my son in his younger years as I never taught him assertiveness. I feel that that left him open to abuse by the kids at school and resulted in him being terribly damaged. That damage, in turn, resulted in him being aggressive. These days, I know how not be “nice” without being “weak” and I know the difference between assertiveness and aggression. And every day, I do my best to help my son recover from his past and to set a good example for the person I want him to be in the future.