Comments on: Bullied to Death http://blog.drphil.com/2010/10/25/bullied-to-death/ Dr. Phil- Start A Change Reaction Sun, 19 May 2013 02:33:16 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8 hourly 1 By: RickT http://blog.drphil.com/2010/10/25/bullied-to-death/comment-page-3/#comment-136708 RickT Thu, 10 Jan 2013 15:48:05 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=2757#comment-136708 While I was in school, I don’t remember a time that I wasn’t bullied. I guess I thought I was just like every other child in my class but to others, I guess I was different. As a small child I was a bit of a sissy and I was never good at sports or anything of that nature. My father was a hard working man who was not into sports so I never had anyone to really teach me anything about those types of activities. I was a Mama’s boy. I still have a lot of pent up emotion about how I was treated in school. I’ve never been to any class reunions, I’m not friends with anyone from my graduating class, on any of the social networking sites. After I graduated high school, I pretty much tried to leave all those memories there so that I could start a new life but those memories still find a way back into my mind at times. The one thing I worry about, concerning bullying and all of these killings that are in the news recently, is the question....”Was bullying involved?” I’ve been out of high school for 30 years and I know how I felt then. I’m not making excuses for any of the killers but everyone should be thinking..... Was there a possibility that they were bullied and that this could be the cause for their terrible ends. Kids need to be taught that their bullying may not just effect the person they are bullying but it could lead to something terrible in the future. I’m not a killer but I still have pent up emotions from the way I was treated then and it seems so much more wore with today’s teens that it could have a far more effect on them later. I’m so glad that I don’t have any children that are growing up in today’s society. Kids are not taught that there are consequences for their actions. Everyone has their own opinion but to me, today’s kids are growing up with a feeling of entitlement and they don’t have to work for anything, it’s just given to them. Think back to a few decades ago, to the 70's & 80's..... There were not these same kind of killings going on. There were some acts done by some crazy individuals about religion and other beliefs but not kids killing other kids. People can think what they want to think about “Whipping a Child” but I feel that it does a child’s butt good to learn there are consequences for actions and “Time Out” ain’t gonna get it. My parents got their butts torn up if they did wrong and I’ve gotten mine torn up too and it’s made me the Man that I am today so that I know right from wrong and how people should be treated. I’m not talking about beating a child out of hate or frustration. My parents had a “Board of Education” and I knew what it was for and I knew what would happen if I did wrong and that’s all it took for me to know to do right. It’s my generation that are raising these killers so it’s gives you something to think about...... While I was in school, I don’t remember a time that I wasn’t bullied. I guess I thought I was just like every other child in my class but to others, I guess I was different. As a small child I was a bit of a sissy and I was never good at sports or anything of that nature. My father was a hard working man who was not into sports so I never had anyone to really teach me anything about those types of activities. I was a Mama’s boy. I still have a lot of pent up emotion about how I was treated in school. I’ve never been to any class reunions, I’m not friends with anyone from my graduating class, on any of the social networking sites. After I graduated high school, I pretty much tried to leave all those memories there so that I could start a new life but those memories still find a way back into my mind at times. The one thing I worry about, concerning bullying and all of these killings that are in the news recently, is the question….”Was bullying involved?”
I’ve been out of high school for 30 years and I know how I felt then. I’m not making excuses for any of the killers but everyone should be thinking….. Was there a possibility that they were bullied and that this could be the cause for their terrible ends. Kids need to be taught that their bullying may not just effect the person they are bullying but it could lead to something terrible in the future. I’m not a killer but I still have pent up emotions from the way I was treated then and it seems so much more wore with today’s teens that it could have a far more effect on them later. I’m so glad that I don’t have any children that are growing up in today’s society. Kids are not taught that there are consequences for their actions. Everyone has their own opinion but to me, today’s kids are growing up with a feeling of entitlement and they don’t have to work for anything, it’s just given to them. Think back to a few decades ago, to the 70’s & 80’s….. There were not these same kind of killings going on. There were some acts done by some crazy individuals about religion and other beliefs but not kids killing other kids. People can think what they want to think about “Whipping a Child” but I feel that it does a child’s butt good to learn there are consequences for actions and “Time Out” ain’t gonna get it.
My parents got their butts torn up if they did wrong and I’ve gotten mine torn up too and it’s made me the Man that I am today so that I know right from wrong and how people should be treated. I’m not talking about beating a child out of hate or frustration. My parents had a “Board of Education” and I knew what it was for and I knew what would happen if I did wrong and that’s all it took for me to know to do right. It’s my generation that are raising these killers so it’s gives you something to think about……

]]> By: Baboucarr http://blog.drphil.com/2010/10/25/bullied-to-death/comment-page-3/#comment-127521 Baboucarr Mon, 22 Oct 2012 06:43:16 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=2757#comment-127521 bullying is really bad here. this year i had to cfoornnt a teacher who was encouraging her students to bully my six-year-old son as revenge for him being the class clown. it gets worse as they get to high school. this town has a culture of bullying, and it makes me sick. i've had people say to homeschool or send them to private school, but that doesn't solve anything. some other kid will just be bullied in there place. it's so wrong. and it isn't always easy to stick up for yourself. but it's just got to stop. kids are cruel- sure. but as adults it's our jobs to reprimand the cruelty- not encourage it.i seriously thought that society had become more open-minded than this. bullying is really bad here. this year i had to cfoornnt a teacher who was encouraging her students to bully my six-year-old son as revenge for him being the class clown. it gets worse as they get to high school. this town has a culture of bullying, and it makes me sick. i’ve had people say to homeschool or send them to private school, but that doesn’t solve anything. some other kid will just be bullied in there place. it’s so wrong. and it isn’t always easy to stick up for yourself. but it’s just got to stop. kids are cruel- sure. but as adults it’s our jobs to reprimand the cruelty- not encourage it.i seriously thought that society had become more open-minded than this.

]]> By: vince http://blog.drphil.com/2010/10/25/bullied-to-death/comment-page-3/#comment-123941 vince Mon, 24 Sep 2012 15:36:48 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=2757#comment-123941 October 25th, 2010, that was then this is now September 24th 2012, the case went to court last summer i think, and the kid got off with a slap on his wrist, because he was a foreign student, they said he could be kicked out of America and never allowed to come back, but he was not, not much justice for the victims family was it. October 25th, 2010, that was then this is now September 24th 2012, the case went to court last summer i think, and the kid got off with a slap on his wrist, because he was a foreign student, they said he could be kicked out of America and never allowed to come back, but he was not, not much justice for the victims family was it.

]]> By: Judy http://blog.drphil.com/2010/10/25/bullied-to-death/comment-page-3/#comment-111653 Judy Tue, 22 May 2012 00:53:21 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=2757#comment-111653 Hi Dr Phil My Daughter is a senior in high school. She is bullied in school everyday. The vice principle says he is trying to help her, but he really isn't. He called the girls into his office and told them what my daughter said and , now it is worse. They think it is a joke. I have to call her out of that class everyday, because of the name calling, the pushing you name it. The Principle would like me to switch her to another class! Why should she be penalized~ she did nothing wrong. Now the problem has moved to Facebook and the vice principle tells me I have to call Facebook and discuss it with them....I'm sick of this. I can't wait till school is over. By the way the parents of the girls think this is also a joke, that girls are just being moody........ yeah right. If my daughter was the bully you can bet I would put the hammer down. This is NOT A JOKE!!!!!!! Hi Dr Phil
My Daughter is a senior in high school. She is bullied in school everyday. The vice principle says he is trying to help her, but he really isn’t. He called the girls into his office and told them what my daughter said and , now it is worse. They think it is a joke. I have to call her out of that class everyday, because of the name calling, the pushing you name it. The Principle would like me to switch her to another class! Why should she be penalized~ she did nothing wrong. Now the problem has moved to Facebook and the vice principle tells me I have to call Facebook and discuss it with them….I’m sick of this. I can’t wait till school is over. By the way the parents of the girls think this is also a joke, that girls are just being moody…….. yeah right. If my daughter was the bully you can bet I would put the hammer down. This is NOT A JOKE!!!!!!!

]]> By: Amanda Sherrill http://blog.drphil.com/2010/10/25/bullied-to-death/comment-page-3/#comment-111326 Amanda Sherrill Fri, 18 May 2012 14:18:19 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=2757#comment-111326 I was bullied as a child but it was nothing like it is today. I have a 9 year old in the forth grade who is bullied almost everyday. It's sad that these kids are being taught that this is ok because it's what they have seen our heard from their parents or guardians. I have taught my son to love everyone, no matter how bad they treat you. But at the same time, it is hard to love, or even like someone that makes your life a living hell. Our children should not know what bullying even means. This is a cycle that we should have broken before it started. Truth be known, it probably started by someone that was so insecure in their own life that they had to bring someone else down with them. We as parents need to stop the cycle by "killing it with kindness." I was bullied as a child but it was nothing like it is today. I have a 9 year old in the forth grade who is bullied almost everyday. It’s sad that these kids are being taught that this is ok because it’s what they have seen our heard from their parents or guardians. I have taught my son to love everyone, no matter how bad they treat you. But at the same time, it is hard to love, or even like someone that makes your life a living hell. Our children should not know what bullying even means. This is a cycle that we should have broken before it started. Truth be known, it probably started by someone that was so insecure in their own life that they had to bring someone else down with them. We as parents need to stop the cycle by “killing it with kindness.”

]]> By: Jim Huetson http://blog.drphil.com/2010/10/25/bullied-to-death/comment-page-3/#comment-99488 Jim Huetson Thu, 15 Mar 2012 00:39:16 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=2757#comment-99488 I wish that the young people who have written to this subject didn't have to. I do not know what it will take to halt most bullying. I am writing to this because I read that the powers that be have given the documentary “Bully” an “R” rating. As a victim of extreme bullying this enrages me. I was born with icthyosis. It appeared as black kernels or scales on my stomach, chest, upper arms, and legs but worst upon my stomach. I first was aware that I was different than other children when the kids in my Sunday school and the neighborhood started making fun of me calling me "fish skin". I learned later in life that the reason my dad would not take me into the tent occupied by the "ALLIGATOR BOY" at the circus was because the alligator boy, a freak, had exactly what I had. Most of the time I dressed in a manner to conceal my ichthyosis. I used the common name of “fish skin” when talking about it. On one occasion a close friend and a group of the other neighborhood boys began chasing me chanting “fish skin” and pelting me with rocks. At one point I fell down and while on the ground lay very still, hoping that one of them would come close enough to allow me to let me grab him. If I could grab one I wanted to kill him! I wanted to rip off his ears, dig out his eyes and hurt him in any way that I could and get rid of him. On another occasion I was patrolling a school crossing as a crossing guard. I was very proud of having been selected for that job. They gave mea white belt that went around my waist and over one shoulder with a badge on it and a red flag to stop traffic with. Two Indian girls, both bigger than I was, came up to me. One held me while the other beat on me. Actually, I was discovering that the people who treated me best were the handicapped and the orphans from the local orphanage. I never told my parents about the anguish caused by the way the other kids treated me. Children simply were not allowed to complain in the late 1930s and early 1940s. On April 20, 1999 I was on a trip through Texas when the news of the Columbine Massacre came over the TV at our Motel. I turned to my traveling companion and said, “The shooters were probably victims of bullying”. The bullying I lived through left me with an inner rage that I have lived with for over 70 years. I have lived in extreme fear of myself knowing that at any time I can respond to bullying, whether personal or observed, in a stupid and extreme manner. This is rage, not anger. Anger management could not contain the rage should it overcome me. The only response when its beginning heat appears is to leave the situation immediately. I have lived and continue to live day by day without harming anyone under God’s Grace. I wish that the young people who have written to this subject didn’t have to. I do not know what it will take to halt most bullying. I am writing to this because I read that the powers that be have given the documentary “Bully” an “R” rating. As a victim of extreme bullying this enrages me.

I was born with icthyosis. It appeared as black kernels or scales on my stomach, chest, upper arms, and legs but worst upon my stomach. I first was aware that I was different than other children when the kids in my Sunday school and the neighborhood started making fun of me calling me “fish skin”. I learned later in life that the reason my dad would not take me into the tent occupied by the “ALLIGATOR BOY” at the circus was because the alligator boy, a freak, had exactly what I had. Most of the time I dressed in a manner to conceal my ichthyosis. I used the common name of “fish skin” when talking about it. On one occasion a close friend and a group of the other neighborhood boys began chasing me chanting “fish skin” and pelting me with rocks. At one point I fell down and while on the ground lay very still, hoping that one of them would come close enough to allow me to let me grab him. If I could grab one I wanted to kill him! I wanted to rip off his ears, dig out his eyes and hurt him in any way that I could and get rid of him. On another occasion I was patrolling a school crossing as a crossing guard. I was very proud of having been selected for that job. They gave mea white belt that went around my waist and over one shoulder with a badge on it and a red flag to stop traffic with. Two Indian girls, both bigger than I was, came up to me. One held me while the other beat on me. Actually, I was discovering that the people who treated me best were the handicapped and the orphans from the local orphanage. I never told my parents about the anguish caused by the way the other kids treated me. Children simply were not allowed to complain in the late 1930s and early 1940s.

On April 20, 1999 I was on a trip through Texas when the news of the Columbine Massacre came over the TV at our Motel. I turned to my traveling companion and said, “The shooters were probably victims of bullying”. The bullying I lived through left me with an inner rage that I have lived with for over 70 years. I have lived in extreme fear of myself knowing that at any time I can respond to bullying, whether personal or observed, in a stupid and extreme manner. This is rage, not anger. Anger management could not contain the rage should it overcome me. The only response when its beginning heat appears is to leave the situation immediately. I have lived and continue to live day by day without harming anyone under God’s Grace.

]]> By: Lisa http://blog.drphil.com/2010/10/25/bullied-to-death/comment-page-3/#comment-98577 Lisa Fri, 09 Mar 2012 11:14:23 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=2757#comment-98577 It's weird but my first bully was my dad for a number of years. After I got to middle school I had only one real friend and of course there were the stoners. I was harrassed by this one girl because she thought she was all that and she wanted attention. It's funny thought that even with all her friends around they left me alone and only she harrassed me. They didn't join in. But she was still popular. Then in high school I was the weird girl. I hung out with the stoners and the GSA kids and even there I didn't fit in. I can't even defend myself and I didn't finish high school. And I was in and out of the hospital by 17. I will never go back to the hospital no matter what happens to me. I feel better knowing I am not alone in this. That there are others going through that. It sounds horrible but at least I know I am not alone. That people survived this. That they are so strong. It helps when I struggle to find something worth fighting for. I hope Im strong too. It’s weird but my first bully was my dad for a number of years. After I got to middle school I had only one real friend and of course there were the stoners. I was harrassed by this one girl because she thought she was all that and she wanted attention. It’s funny thought that even with all her friends around they left me alone and only she harrassed me. They didn’t join in. But she was still popular. Then in high school I was the weird girl. I hung out with the stoners and the GSA kids and even there I didn’t fit in. I can’t even defend myself and I didn’t finish high school. And I was in and out of the hospital by 17. I will never go back to the hospital no matter what happens to me. I feel better knowing I am not alone in this. That there are others going through that. It sounds horrible but at least I know I am not alone. That people survived this. That they are so strong.
It helps when I struggle to find something worth fighting for. I hope Im strong too.

]]> By: Jessica http://blog.drphil.com/2010/10/25/bullied-to-death/comment-page-3/#comment-95994 Jessica Thu, 23 Feb 2012 19:00:47 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=2757#comment-95994 I got into a fight in 6th grade beacuse my friend started bullying another girl beacuse she was different. I also got kicked out my last high school beacuse three girls where ganging up on me and i stood up. Its childish and parents need to stand up for once. Go to school take our place these's days see if you can make it 1 day without thoughts going through the mind! I got into a fight in 6th grade beacuse my friend started bullying another girl beacuse she was different. I also got kicked out my last high school beacuse three girls where ganging up on me and i stood up. Its childish and parents need to stand up for once. Go to school take our place these’s days see if you can make it 1 day without thoughts going through the mind!

]]> By: Jessica http://blog.drphil.com/2010/10/25/bullied-to-death/comment-page-3/#comment-95992 Jessica Thu, 23 Feb 2012 18:57:45 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=2757#comment-95992 Hi, My name is Jessica. I'm in high school and through out my school year's i seen it all and been through it all. I stay in trouble hafe the time in school because if i see bullying happening i will be the first to step in if the teachers dont. Hafe the time teachers dont see it beacuse students these days go to bathrooms, cell phones, internet, and even sometimes infrount of the teach but in ways the teacher believes is joking around. i been bullied through school till 9th grade. Now i stick up for myself MORE than i did befor. Hi, My name is Jessica. I’m in high school and through out my school year’s i seen it all and been through it all. I stay in trouble hafe the time in school because if i see bullying happening i will be the first to step in if the teachers dont. Hafe the time teachers dont see it beacuse students these days go to bathrooms, cell phones, internet, and even sometimes infrount of the teach but in ways the teacher believes is joking around. i been bullied through school till 9th grade. Now i stick up for myself MORE than i did befor.

]]> By: Danielle http://blog.drphil.com/2010/10/25/bullied-to-death/comment-page-3/#comment-86477 Danielle Sun, 15 Jan 2012 06:54:00 +0000 http://blog.drphil.com/?p=2757#comment-86477 Bullying must be stopped. There needs to be much more serious consequences. It's heart wrenching to see children as young as 11 commit suicide because they have been bullied relentlessly. I'm 17 and I am in high school. It's horrible what children are capable of in this day and age. I have witnessed multiple accounts of bullying. Cyber bullying included. I don't understand how ANYONE* could do such a thing. I am very anti-bullying. I've reported multiple cases of cyber-bullying. Bullying hurts. I used to be bullied and it shot my self-esteem. We need to spread the word about the severity of bullying. Dr.Phil, I idolize you. I love the work you do. I watch your show absolutely every day I can. You're definitely a role model for me. I love that bullying is a close subject to your heart, and that you are fighting to bring the harsh reality of it into the spot light. No one should ever have to feel like they are not good enough. No one should ever feel as if no one likes them or no one cares if they die. No one should ever feel ugly. Bullying has become a serious problem. It needs to be stopped! Bullying must be stopped. There needs to be much more serious consequences. It’s heart wrenching to see children as young as 11 commit suicide because they have been bullied relentlessly. I’m 17 and I am in high school. It’s horrible what children are capable of in this day and age. I have witnessed multiple accounts of bullying. Cyber bullying included. I don’t understand how ANYONE* could do such a thing. I am very anti-bullying. I’ve reported multiple cases of cyber-bullying. Bullying hurts. I used to be bullied and it shot my self-esteem. We need to spread the word about the severity of bullying. Dr.Phil, I idolize you. I love the work you do. I watch your show absolutely every day I can. You’re definitely a role model for me. I love that bullying is a close subject to your heart, and that you are fighting to bring the harsh reality of it into the spot light. No one should ever have to feel like they are not good enough. No one should ever feel as if no one likes them or no one cares if they die. No one should ever feel ugly. Bullying has become a serious problem. It needs to be stopped!

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