Comments on: Love, Sex and the American Man

By: Leeanne

Leeanne — Mon, 18 Jul 2011 18:45:56 +0000

“It seems that by mopping the floors and doing the dishes, husbands are showing a greater commitment to home and hearth. According to the researchers, this tends to be an aphrodisiac for their wives. Can you believe it?”

I can absolutely believe it. The reason is two-prong.

1. Appreciation and Commitment.

If my husband helps out at home, I feel less resentful, appreciated and not taken advantage of. I feel like he is committed to the house and the marriage and that I am not alone. Let me tell you, any couple in which they both work 40 or so hours a week and equally contribute to the finances of the house and the parenting, should share the housework somehow having it equal 50/50 over a period of time. Not everyone can be 50/50 every day……..too exhausting……..but sometimes it is 25/75 or 90/10……..doesn’t matter as long is things FEEL FAIR.

2. Energy

When I am not feeling exhausted from having to work 40 hours a week and do 40 hours a week worth of housework………..I am more likely to be in the mood.

Overall:

When we feel like things feel fair, then we are more inclined to feel fair about other matters……a.k.a. bedroom matters!

A woman who feels under-appreciated and alone in her marriage or relationship will not give her body and her heart to anyone. No self-respecting person would. Just common sense.

By: Gwendolyn Gurily

Gwendolyn Gurily — Wed, 13 Jul 2011 19:56:47 +0000

Having been divorced for over twenty years, dating has been an issue – Challenging in the Washington DC area. Turning 55 years of age, I am educated, still attractive. I now desire a relationship with someone, who is interested in being a friend, not just having a sexual relationship. That have bben my challenge. Please help me. I hope to visit your show in Sept, 2011. Thanks for any insight that you can offer. Please be honest with me. Take care.

By: KJ

KJ — Tue, 05 Jul 2011 07:58:29 +0000

So, the American Man needs to change? His desires, or actions, whatever those may be, are undesirable and unhealthy. The ‘expert’ opinion of Dr. Phil is as follows: women want men to change, therefore men MUST change! How about articles showing men establishing more independence, or refusing to commit to unhealthy relationships? Or about how men are happier having done something that would actually make them happier.

Note on your housework statistic: those numbers have been repeatedly debunked. Study after study of housework division exclude all kinds of housework that is male dominated: car repair and upkeep, home repair, yard work, ect. Nobody counts the time men spend building that new bookcase. Also, many of the activities women report doing, they are doing because they have different standards. They don’t think clean is the same thing that men think clean is. This is THEIR problem, not the mans. If you volunteer to fix something that someone else did, you did just that: volunteered.

Dr. Phil: I look at women because I like to look at women. Women have a built in mechanism for keeping my eyes from wandering, if they choose to be stingy with it that is their business.

By: lavana Heaton

lavana Heaton — Tue, 10 May 2011 00:11:23 +0000

Dr.Phil,
I have a boyfriend whom i love very much.But i cann”t hardly get him to open up and talk about where our relationship is going.We have been dating almost three years,but nothing has changed.I have been talking to him about us getting married ,but he keeps telling me he is not ready to right now.He likes things the way they are right now.Which is him coming up once a week,and us going out to eat,watching tv,or him getting on my computer.He tells me he loves me ,but i donn”t really think he loves me enough to commit to this relationship completely.What should i do?But i think he just loves having someone he can get out with one day a week and do something with.I am at my wits in and donn”t know where to turn.Can you please help?Email me back at ,and let me know ,how i should handle this situation.
Lavana

By: lavana Heaton

lavana Heaton — Tue, 10 May 2011 00:08:56 +0000

Dr.Phil,
I have a boyfriend whom i love very much.But i cann”t hardly get him to open up and talk about where our relationship is going.We have been dating almost three years,but nothing has changed.I have been talking to him about us getting married ,but he keeps telling me he is not ready to right now.He likes things the way they are right now.Which is him coming up once a week,and us going out to eat,watching tv,or him getting on my computer.He tells me he loves me ,but i donn”t really think he loves me enough to commit to this relationship completely.What should i do?He is always telling me he loves me to.But i think he just loves having someone he can get out with one day a week and do something with.I am at my wits in and donn”t know where to turn.Can you please help?Email me back at l,and let me know ,how i should handle this situation.
Lavana

By: Gail Kasper

Gail Kasper — Tue, 12 Apr 2011 17:32:24 +0000

This is some great information! It is definitely something that all couples should be aware of in a relationship… I really work to give tips to help people in the same way with their attitude with my Systematic Attitude Development-Technique. Thanks for sharing your knowledge!
-Gail, gailkasper.com

By: Clarice

Clarice — Tue, 12 Apr 2011 01:04:34 +0000

When I was driving home I listened to an interview of a woman who was changing genders. She was bright and funny. She said when she was taking injections of testosterone, she could not help staring at women. She could not help it and she felt like a pig.

A friend of mine had breast cancer, and they were giving her some testosterone as part of her treatment. She told me she felt horny and wanted to get into fights.

So, it is just nature taking it’s course. But love is another factor, and men who fall head over heals in love don’t want any other woman than the one they have; but they still may catch a glimpse from time to time.

By: Kristen

Kristen — Wed, 06 Apr 2011 20:47:49 +0000

Haha! I like the yoga thing. I’ve been trying to get guys to do yoga for years! And as far as the ‘roving eye’ thing goes, well, I think that something men will do forever, and it’s silly to break up with a guy because he looks at another woman.

By: zbd

zbd — Fri, 01 Apr 2011 19:59:11 +0000

As a man, I do all the dishwashing, laundry, vacuuming, grocery shopping, house and car repairs in my house. My wife works hard and I do everything I can to make her life easier. I know I am a minority, but some men like me do these duties.

By: Bruce

Bruce — Tue, 22 Mar 2011 15:47:15 +0000

Hi,

I haven’t tried to do some YOGA because I believed there are lots of strategies or techniques to increase or improved sexual stamina for men, but because of these researched I’ll try to do YOGA ha ha ha..

I’ll give you some feedback’s about the results.

thanks