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April 11th, 2011 by Dr. Phil

Is it a Crime to Snoop on Your Spouse?

spouseEmail1Should it be considered a crime to read your spouse’s email?

That’s what some prosecutors in Michigan believe. Relying on a legal statute typically used to prosecute crimes such as identity theft, they have charged 33-year-old Leon Walker with a felony, after he logged onto a laptop in the home he shared with his wife, Clara.

Why did Leon use her computer? According to reports, he used her password to access her Gmail account, because he suspected she was having an affair. Indeed, he found out, she was. And what did playing detective get him? A trial date this month where he could be sent to prison for up to five years. Prosecutors insist that by snooping through his wife’s email, Walker was committing a felony.

Seriously? Reading your spouse’s email is now supposedly a crime?

Well, in truth, Clara and Leon were going through divorce proceedings at the time the snooping took place last summer. Clara says she had a right to privacy, and she felt “violated“ by Leon’s actions, attempting to discover things about her new personal life.

But they were still sharing a residence, and Leon was still regularly using that very computer. According to Leon, Clara also kept all of the passwords to her accounts in a book she stored next to the computer, an allegation Clara denies, so it wasn’t as if he had to do something really underhanded to access them. Leon claims he felt obligated to look through her Gmail account because he was worried about the affair (it turned out she was having an affair with her second husband) and the effect it might have on their daughter and his stepson.

We all hate hackers who illegally try to access our private online information. Is it reasonable to consider Leon just another criminal hacker? Or does someone have a legitimate right to know about his spouse’s online activities, even while going through a divorce?

Actually, Leon’s upcoming trial could have a lot of repercussions. It’s estimated that about 45 percent of divorce cases involve some online snooping: gathering emails, reading Facebook postings, and so on. But divorces are civil cases. No one has ever heard of a criminal case getting filed because someone sneaked onto his or her spouse’s computer — until now.

I look forward to reading your comments.

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155 Responses to “Is it a Crime to Snoop on Your Spouse?”

  1. Mary says:

    I think it’s sad that people even need to spy on their spouse. That has to be a pretty miserable life to constantly be fishing for something to be wrong. Given the fact that this couple were already in a divorce I can some what agree with the woman and her law suit. My ex husband was very abusive and stalked me for quite awhile so if he had access to my email i would have been afraid and very angry.

  2. Hayden McKinney says:

    I think it is INSANE that someone is potentially going to jail for reading his spouse’s email. What is this world coming to? I believe that while a spouse should trust the other and never feel the need to snoop, that spouses should have access to everything in regard to each other. Computers have made infidelity too easy. I had an affair 6 years ago. The man I had an affair with would not have been as accessible to me without Internet. Once I came clean to my husband, his access to my personal accounts gave me a level of accountability I needed to overcome my emotional attachment to the person I was having an affair with. By the same token, on March 5, 2010, I was using my husband’s computer. I discovered a letter he had written to my best friend in the entire world pledging his love to her. They had been having an affair for 4 or 5 months – unbeknowst to me. If I had not found that letter, my husband and I would be divorced right now and my sweet kids would not have us together. Because I found the letter, we were able to seek counseling- endure an almost unbearable year as we pieced ourselves back together- and now our marriage is stronger than it has ever been. I curse the Internet for making their relationship so easy, but I am grateful I snooped because I know I would be divorced right now if I hadn’t. Wives and husbands MUST have accountabiltiy to one another. They must. The law should NOT interfere in that. The government has stuck its nose in every other thing- please stay OUT of my marriage!

  3. April says:

    Yes, I definitely believe it is a crime to snoop on your spouse. This is a clear violation of privacy–going through a divorce, having an affair it doesn’t matter. Clara is not Leon’s child; she’s his wife. But… first she is an adult.

  4. Staci says:

    I think its sad that he felt the need to spy on his wife at all. I don’t think it should be a crime. My husband and I know each others passwords and stay logged on to our facebook or email accounts at all times. My husband could look at every email I’ve ever received if he wanted to. We don’t have secrets from each other. Trust is essential in a marriage. He couldn’t trust her anymore and I’m sure some of that was the cause of the divorce.

  5. Betty M says:

    No it should not be a crime. Marriage shoud be a open book. There should be no ex’s on our facebooks pages its asking for trouble. When someone gets into a little argument with their spouse and the ex is there to talk to , it could bring up old feelings and there you go.
    I give my huband all my passwords and I have his, it should be that way. I found a few ex’s on his page and he deleted them. My one question was how would you like me to have my ex’s on my page, he shook his head yea and promptly deleted them. I don’t care if they were 12 or 21, ex;s are ex’s that means good bye so long. I do not want ex’s in our marriage or watch what he posts.
    Some people just do not care if their ex is married or not and hit on them. I know many marriages broken up from things like facebook, and myspace.

    Yes if you have nothing to hide then everything should be open.

  6. Denice Bloxton says:

    I think it is a waste of tax payer dollars to prosecute this as a crime. What are they going to do next, make it a crime if you look at the history on your own computer that is shared by your spouse and find out your spouse has been looking at pornography or singles web sites? If a person really does not want their spouse to look at their information on the computer they would 1)not use the same computer; 2)not save passwords on the computer or keep passwords where their spouse could find them; 3)change all passwords if there was in fact trouble in their marriage. I feel that this wife wanted him to find out or else she would have taken precautions to keep him from being able to access her personal information.

  7. ladykricket says:

    No I do not believe it is a crime to read your spouses email because there should never be anything in you email that you would not be willing to show your spouse. I am kinda biased on this issue because I got into my spouses email and discovered that he had been cheating on me six years ago and that it lasted for a year. I had been dumb and happy not knowing that the man I trusted to be faithful to me because he had been cheated on in a previous relationship and knew the hurt it causes. Well I was very wrong and now I do not trust him at all and he is making it worse by changing the password to that email account and hanging out with other women and lying to me about it. If I hadn’t been wondering why my husband was accting so strange I would never have looked for an extra email account and discovered his cheating.

    My husband has my passwords and i have nothing to hide because I don’t cheat on him. I believe that openness and honesty are extremely important in a marriage.

  8. Tricia Ferguson says:

    No , I don’t think that it should be a crime , But if you have a spouse that just needs to snoop into one another private or personal E-mail shouldn’t be allowed , if only the spouse wants to share information that they should have permission to be able read .

  9. Kelly Haas says:

    I don’t think it is a crime. Wrong maybe. What’s funny is here in Michigan the act of adultery is a felony, so anyone may want to think twice about pressing charges due to snooping if they are cheating. :)

  10. Ray says:

    No…I believe that It should not be a crime. I was once told that “People hide what is worth hiding” and “People hide from being caught”. I believe that no matter if they are in divorce proceedings or not,they are still marriage. When you are married you share and care. This woman clearly didn’t care about the man and wanted to hurt him in anyway possible. What is there to say in an email that can’t be said in front of him? People that are doing something that they shouldn’t, will always, I mean always, scream invasion of privacy…

  11. Virginia Mayes says:

    No it is not a crime. If your spouse has nothing to hide it shouldn’t matter.
    I was married forty eight years before my husband passed away and we always read each other’s mail and email.

  12. Erin says:

    When you say “I Do,” you are two now as one. My Mom and Dad have only one e-mail address, and they BOTH read it at their leisure. What’s his is hers, and what’s hers is his. Sharing, including e-mail should NOT be a crime!

  13. Sandy says:

    I don’t believe a spouse should be charged with a felony for viewing another spouse’s email. However, this is not just about husband and wife. This is a law that covers many relationships including, co-workers; friends; strangers, even the police without a warrant etc… I am a Private Investigator and believe me when I say that it would make my job much easier if it were not illegal. Now, should it be a felony? I believe that under most circumstances, a misdemeanor would be appropriate. This law is not going to change though and I believe it will be up to a judge to use discretion in each case individually.

  14. Opening someone else’s mail is a crime. That said, I open all the mail that comes into our household because I do the accounting and bookingkeeping. I have permission to open the mail. I have passwords to all our computers, and yet, I would never open or even go into my husband’s email. I access only the accounting programs on his computer. My husband has the passwords to my computer, and yet, he would also not ever go into my email. Why? Simple respect of privacy. Do I have anything to hide? Does he? No, not at all.
    In fact, if my husband needs something that is in my purse, for instance if he needs to break a bill or some change for something, he brings me my purse. Would it be okay for him to go into my wallet and extract the money he needs? Yes, it would be totally fine with me. However, out of respect, he simply wouldn’t go into a woman’s purse, even if that woman was his wife. On reflection, I find that quite nice.
    I think when you write a letter, you expect privacy. If I’m writing to my sister, to my Mother, to whoever, it’s between me and that person that the letter is addressed. Maybe this sounds a bit old fashioned but maybe this is why there is so much divorce. People don’t treat other people with basic respect. I share everything with my husband, happenstance. I don’t have secrets from him. We chat intimately about everything in our lives. But this is choice. I don’t own him. I don’t own his thoughts, I don’t want to control him or know his every thought. I respect him as a person and his right to privacy, this is one of the things, ironically, that creates a good environment for intimacy to flourish.
    So, I think with the email thing, as a society, we do need to make some decisions about email in general. Is it the same as sending a letter? I think so, and as such, it deserves to be private.

  15. Ann says:

    It is insane to prosecute this man. In this day and age of the internet, there needs to be openness and transparency in a marriage. Many couples have single /family email addresses and access to each other’s accounts, and that right there cuts to the chase on any trust issues because you should have no secrets in your marriage. Back in the day if someone was having an affair and a love letter was mailed to your house, would you get thrown in jail for reading the letter? My boyfriend knows that I can (and do) ask to see his email at any time, as well as his history on his computer. Do I have trust issues? You bet! But in a relationship, if you ain’t hiding nothing, you got nothing to hide.

  16. Vera Rosario says:

    I wholeheartedly agree that unauthorized use of this woman’s email was criminal. I think that every individual has a right to privacy irrespective of the fact she is married. Marriage does not mean she loses her right to exist outside of the relationship. I do not condone her actions, I just think she is entitled to keep private aspects of her life and does not HAVE to share EVERYTHING!

  17. Deepak says:

    Opening someone else’s mail is a crime. That said, I open all the mail that comes into our household because I do the accounting and bookingkeeping. I have permission to open the mail. I have passwords to all our computers, and yet, I would never open or even go into my husband’s email. I access only the accounting programs on his computer. My husband has the passwords to my computer, and yet, he would also not ever go into my email. Why? Simple respect of privacy. Do I have anything to hide? Does he? No, not at all.
    In fact, if my husband needs something that is in my purse, for instance if he needs to break a bill or some change for something, he brings me my purse. Would it be okay for him to go into my wallet and extract the money he needs? Yes, it would be totally fine with me. However, out of respect, he simply wouldn’t go into a woman’s purse, even if that woman was his wife. On reflection, I find that quite nice.

  18. Harshad says:

    I don’t believe a spouse should be charged with a felony for viewing another spouse’s email. However, this is not just about husband and wife. This is a law that covers many relationships including, co-workers; friends; strangers, even the police without a warrant etc… I am a Private Investigator and believe me when I say that it would make my job much easier if it were not illegal. Now, should it be a felony? I believe that under most circumstances, a misdemeanor would be appropriate. This law is not going to change though and I believe it will be up to a judge to use discretion in each case individually.

  19. Krunal says:

    No it is not a crime. If your spouse has nothing to hide it shouldn’t matter.
    I was married forty eight years before my husband passed away and we always read each other’s mail and email.

  20. Salvina says:

    I do not think it should be a crime.
    I think the courts are getting bogged down by this type of thing.
    Once your married you are one and should have nothing to hide from each other.

  21. kath says:

    We are now advocating more policing in the privacy of our own homes?? What are you people thinking? It’s no wonder some of these kids are so confused and turn to numbing themselves. Has it really come down to someone who has little character in a civil matter within his/her own home, using his/her own appliances may be charged with a felony-or convicted of a crime? This is scary! What then would keep a 19 year old from convicting is parents, sister, brother, Aunt etc.?

  22. vince says:

    not much trust in ur spouse if you feel the need to spy on them! maybe instead of law makers trying to create new ways to fill the courts with stupidity cases that will only tie up our court systems for the next 100BILLION years, they should focus on the past 30year back-log and get up to date! whats next Dr Phil ? i know lets pass a no passing gas out side or in restaurant restrooms, we can create a gas sniffing task force to hang out in all public places and ALL restrooms, the government can allot trillions of dollars for sophisticated methane sensing equit! i know im just plain stupid, but one fact!!!!! im not so stupid as to think im with the perfect mate if i have to snoop to see if that mate is cheating, or if that spouse is up to no good, if ones heart tells you to check on ur spouse your heart is telling you to cut your losses and RUN. and it dont take a law being passed to protect the corrupt and cheating hearts out there OR A LAWYER TO TELL YOU TO LEAVE, peace of mind for free! AMERICA PLEASE GET REHAB!!! YOU NEED IT.

  23. colleen says:

    I think men have no rights what so ever anymore. I would like to have my soon to be ex daughter in law followed and check out her emails. She takes my grandson to partys with her she drinks everyday and their home is one big party. My grandson is only 7 yrs. old and put thru hell because of his mother, she thinks every day should be a party. She has a 14 yr. old daughter that acts like shes 40 and her mother lets the boyfriend spend the night always. I really dont care what an adult does but when the kids are involved its sad. Sometimes a man or a women really doesnt know what is going on unless they do snoop, I fill they have every right if that is the only way they can find the truth. I have never heard of such a stupid, wasted time in the courts for something like this. Women are guilty of this also but of course you would hear about it. Where are mens rights? I am so disguisted with the system today, Even CPS acts like they dont care about the children unless they get injured and about die then they might step in, Their all for the women, and I am a women myself but I have to say I really fill sorry for alot of men today, Its sad. Thanks, Colleen If Dr. Phil would speak to me I would like to talk to him about a serious problem about my grandson but I do not have a computer in my home, Please I know he is busy but he is my last resort. Thanks again, Colleen Block Utah

  24. Adam says:

    Honestly, what is all the noise going to solve? Notta, zip, zero and oh yeah don’t let me forget zilch. You know I wish people would just get over themselves, and get down to the real work of Loving our Families, and Loving one another, oopss did I say the L word. Please, let me elaborate, I don’t see a shred of LOVE in suspicion OR betrayal. If individuals find themselves locked in this struggle, they should see the evidence for what it is and perhaps learn a new methodology for the way they travel through Life. Life in itself is an intense learning curve, why should we bog ourselves down with extra weight. On the same token truly learning to Love is an even steeper traverse, and we truly need one another to help along the way. We weren’t created for an individual experience only; not as much as some of us would like to think. If you are going to enter into a partnership with someone on an intimate level there should be full disclosure no compromises, on the same token its an individual right to privacy as well but there should no reason for doubt and there should be rock solid integrity that’s giving your best and nothing less will do.

  25. To open someones mail in the same household should not be considered a crime. Inappropriate yes, but in this case he needed to find some proof to support his claim that is wife was cheating during divorce proceedings.

  26. Mary says:

    It should not be a crime. I pay for my AOL account and have been paying forever. My so called husband has never paid a dime. I let him use my account and he betrayed me in the worst way by having other women email him all the time with details of his affairs. I took his name off of my account. If he wants to email other women then he can get his own account. If a woman needs evidence to assist her in getting her just deserts then it is ok in my book.

  27. dawne says:

    I WASNT EVEN SNOOPING,MY HUSBAND LEFT HIS PAGE OPEN,OOPPPS! AND I SAW A CHAT HE HAD WITH FORMER COWORKER.IT WAS THE WORDS HE USED THAT PISSED ME OFF.MARRIED MEN SHOULDN’T TELL OTHER WOMAN”SLEEP TIGHT’& “IM YOUR ROCK ” YOU CAN LEAN ON ME. NOW ARE MARRIAGE IS STRUGGLING

  28. Jana says:

    I believe that the fact they were going through a divorce definitely makes it a crime. Before the filing, no. To me it would be no different than if he had broken into a different residence to gain access.

  29. dawne says:

    SO IF YOU HAVE DOUBTS THEN JUST CONFRONT YOUR SPOUSE,TRUST ISSUES ARE THERE IF YOU GOTTA SNOOP

  30. Brenda says:

    I do not think snooping on your spouse should be a crime. If you have already confronted your spouse about an issue, such as infidelity, and he has lied and gaslighted, it may be the only way you can find the truth.

    When you are gaslighted, you can begin to doubt yourself, or think you are crazy. Snooping may confirm your suspicions, and restore your self-trust. Finding the truth would also allow you to make an informed decision, rather than making a decision based on your spouse’s lies.

  31. Reggie Hammond says:

    If you bought the cow would you want all your neighbors to be taking the milk for free?? Get real and understand when you enter into a special bond of marriage it wasn’t just so the cow could be housed and fed ($$$$$) taken care of in the “hope” that it might stay on the farm. If these terms are too old fashioned for you to understand and you consider them outdated then don’t enter into marriage just so you can keep dating like you did when you lived under mom & dad’s roof. Get out of marriages if you need to cheat and repay whoever is footing the bills.

  32. Brita says:

    I don’tthink it should be a crime. Being married means to becoming one, than why the privacy? If a spouse needs privacy, got to question why! I am married and a leave my email open,facebook because I have nothing to hide.

  33. JacLee says:

    Of course it should not be a crime. When a couple marry they become as “one”. At least in my generation. This couple are getting a divorce but still living together. They are still married. Lady, have enough since to not put messages on anything that could be open to another person.

  34. vince says:

    ya know i let stupid things just get under my skin, sorry i think of stupid remarks to post about stupid news, dr phil is it possible to sue our nation for electing these mentally challenged law makers we seem to have employed in government? fire these good upstanding law makers and freeze there bank accounts and give the money back to americans who have been cheated, beat, robbed and just plain treated as if we are all brainless, give me a damn law to rid my nation of corruption and drugs, ill be a happy camper then i swear!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.

  35. dianneburnett says:

    We live in a society where affairs have no repercussion, where divorce often leaves the adulterating party with benefits & money & children, as they destroy all in their path. When she married she made covenants to be faithful and become one. He made those same covenants and to stick with her through pain and sickness. So he is trying to help her through that sickness of infidelity, sometimes confronting your adulterating partner allows them to come back to you. They are still married and one, and he still has to try. He is not at fault for trying to find out what’s wrong because he knows that his wife is lying. Let’s all help him get a lawyer and help his sue for alienation of affection from the wifes’ 2nd husband. All divorces should have a form filled out 6 months prior to finalization and under penalty of perjury that they have not committed adultery or if so who it was with and when, it should include all of their bank accounts and amounts of money hidden, and assets and all is disclosed to each party. We have a system of no accountability. My Ex hid money, and married his adulteress 3 days after the divorce was final and while I was pregnant with our 6th child.

  36. Maria says:

    If you suspects your other half is cheating at you ,go ahead and snoop ,when your guts tell you .trust in your guts .I was married twice and both of them cheat at me,I wish in those years computer were available ,I probably found out sooner……I respect the others privacy ,I don’t even look in my kids stuff ,but if my husband give me the thoughts I will snoop ,it should be not a crime if you are married ,it should be honesty between partner anyway! I am married my huby should be able to read my mails and viceverse ,but when sneaky ways are used something is wrong.

  37. Ethel says:

    It is not a good idea to snoop even if you have suspicions, but I don’t think its worth going to jail for 5 years.

  38. Jim Assad says:

    Rediculous to prosecute. Sounds like he had a good reason to snoop. Wouldn’t you want to know more about the who,what, and where about the affair ? Tell me you wouldn’t and I’ll call you a liar

  39. Shawn says:

    As suspected, she was stepping outside their relationship, he simply confirmed what she was doing. Game on.

  40. Annie says:

    If you don’t want your spouse to read your mails or other stuff, you ‘ve got something to hide!!!
    What about the woman who broke her legal vow to be faithfull to her husband?
    Why is the cheating spouse ok and the one who had good reasons to snoop, a criminal? World upside down…

  41. vince says:

    we need to pass a law to stop that preacher in calf from acting as if he knows when the earth will be destroyer i was just on yahoo and read part of that story no offence intended but instead of preaching about when the world will end,why not instead preach about how people can get forgiven BEFORE IT ENDS, teach children hot to invite christ into there hearts so they will not grow up as i did not having a clue as to how to ask jesus to forgive you, it seems to me sir that jesus dont listen to our mouths, thank god, many people need to learn how to talk to god with there hearts! as for this planet<s end, well folks i leave all that in God,s hands, our end will come one day my world will end the day or night i die and leave this body, im glad one man wishes to be credited with the exact day and time planet earth will end, but i feel in my heart only God knows that day, and i assure you that face i saw on yahoo was not God. ALSO my heart tells me its better to live life sin free so we do not have to worry about planet earth,s end, hell this world is only a stepping stone to our creator, if it blows apart and is only dust in space so be it, i fear it not, only the corrupt and sinners of this world who do not get forgiven need fear what we call death, for on there dieing day as fast as they leave there body they ARE in hell forever,and do not even know it, 2012 them myhas said the world ends, only end i see Dr Phil is the end of there calender, also many think we all evolved from apes, lmao hope when God sees all them poor monkeys floating in space inside of a rocket he credits nasa for evolving from monkeys roflmao, it is a fact that a monkey was the first space traveler, doc what in hell are them aliens gunna think? are they sharing technology with them monkeys instead of with man lol, maybe this is why we see no flying saucers from space, them monkeys went sycho on them cause no one had a banana and that chimp was cheated out of it when he or she punched the launch button, give me a teliscope that will show me our flag on the moon from my yard and ill beleive man stepped on the moon, till then AMERICA you all fell for the biggest scam in human history just as i did!!!!!!!.

  42. Martin says:

    My ex- left her (spare) phone in her purse but made the mistake of leaving her ringer on. When a new text came in I went to answer her phone thinking it was a call, I found her old texts.Yes, he can.

  43. amy says:

    I think it’s a ridiculous waste of taxpayer funds to prosecute this as a crime. I also don’t think it’s the right thing to do, but making it a felony to read a spouse’s e-mail is allowing government to have way too much “say” in what goes on in any individual marriage/relationship. Sure, it’s a felony to open someone else’s US mail without their express permission, but I believe that when sharing a computer, and either sharing passwords, or leaving your accounts open, there is no felony aspect, even if the spirit of violation of privacy may be in question. This is, at best a civil matter, but certainly not a matter for criminal courts. I think a dangerous precedent would be set if this instance was allowed to be prosecuted as a felony….and I did read (and happen to know that it is correct) that in most states, adultery is still ALSO a felony, though rarely prosecuted….why don’t we leave prosecution of felony crimes to the ones that affect society as a whole, and not the ones that belong in either family or civil court? We simply don’t have (and shouldn’t use) the resources to create more frivolous crimes for our over-burdened court systems to have to deal with….Marriage is supposed to include trust, and though the couple in question was in the midst of divorce, it seems strange that they were still cohabitating and sharing a computer. Perhaps the “victim” should have waited to start a new relationship until she wasn’t living with her spouse….the fact that one has a spouse is like an implied consent for looking at information on shared electronics….do they listen to the same iPod? Just food for thought~

  44. Courtney says:

    I’m so confused. . .why get married in the first place if you’re going to cheat? If you really loved your spouse, you would be honest with them at all times, even when it comes to having an affair. If you don’t love them enough to be honest with them and they have to resort to snooping, then have the audacity to be a good person and let them move on with their life with someone who truly cares about them!

  45. Lynda says:

    I don’t know if it should be illegal, but I can tell you as a spouse that has been “snooped” on – it’s AWFUL. My husband would take my car out to wash it and go through the glove box, look under seats, etc. I even caught him going through my underwear drawer, and picking up the mattress to look between the top and bottom. The worst part…I NEVER EVER cheated, and never gave him reason to think that I would – I was WAY to busy working full time and raising 2 kids. This was part of the reason we are no longer together, but I seriously think its some kind of compulsion with some people. ONce when I asked him about it, he said I should never hide anything from him because we were married and he was “just checking” I will never understand it.

  46. John Nelson says:

    I think the D.A is a joke for wasting tax payers money to put that man on trial. He was home, it was his wife, and he wasn’t hacking to steal money or anything like that, he suspected his wife of cheating and it turned out to be true. mr or mrs DA, use some common sense and let that man go. Don’t let his wife or ex wife get satisfaction by putting him in jail because he caught her cheating!!

  47. Janet says:

    I believe that it should be a crime. I’m guessing that the people who don’t think it should be a crime has never had their spouse snoop at their emails and pick up another cordless phone to blatantly listen to their conversations. It is annoying to get absolutely no privacy to talk to my mom nor my sister on the phone without “Mr. Nosy” listening, and worst of all, tells me that I should NOT be on the phone and not talking to anyone. I am NOT having an affair with anyone, never, ever, ever had an affair, nor do any “suspicious” activities. I am just a boring 48-year-old woman with two children. Plus, my husband roots through my purse, drawers, closet, car, etc. taking anything he feels that I shouldn’t have. For example, jawbreakers (candy), soda, granola bars, and raisins. He said that I “don’t deserve those things.”

  48. Marcy says:

    Way to go Dr. Phil!!! What’s wrong with our marriages today is we have taken GOD out of the marriage and replaced it with our wants and selfishness. God made marriage as a union between man and woman. Not man and every other woman. This Ms. Hill woman sounds like she is just trying to give an explanation as to why she is not happy with her relationship. It disgusted me to listen to her. Way to go Dr. Phil. Love your show.

  49. Melissa says:

    A great man once said “those who have nothing to hide, hide nothing”. She should have finished her relationship with him before starting another. Until they are divorced, she is his wife and should have a little bit of respect for him and herself. Im sure it wouldnt have hurt to wait till they were divorced. If she really wanted her privacy so bad, she should have moved out.

  50. Susan says:

    When you marry, this person has the power to deceive you and cause you physical harm. You also trust them to act decently. My husband was sitting 6 feet away from me madly texting on his IPOD and acting strangely. Yes, I looked at his
    email the next day and found out he was chatting with prostitutes in Mexico and working out a cheap rate for his next visit.

    Wow I would like to see them arrest me. I divorced him, thank God i have no
    disease. He immediately changed his password the next day.

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